Long story short, I've been "flirting" on and off with a friend of mine for a few months now. She has a boyfriend that she's been dating for two years, but their relationship haven't been going that well for the last year and there were constant breakup/make ups and fights.
She tells me that she stays with him because he always tries to chase her back after a fight. At this point, she is willing to trust me with a lot of secrets that she's not willing to talk to him about. And when I finally revealed that I do like her and would be there for her if she ever needed me. She seemed really touched and gave me a hug and thanked me.
Now I'm curious if this is going into the friendship zone? Or am I actually getting somewhere. Because I really like this girl and I feel that we are really compatible with each other.
I'd be a bit wary if I were you. It's clear you care about her, but the fact of the matter is she is still dating this guy for whatever reason it may be. I have no idea if he's the jealous type or what, but be careful how you flirt with her. And as much as you do like her, try not to hold yourself down to her in the hopes she may one day see you as more than a friend. What you're doing is very sweet, but you do have to keep in mind that you are the 'other guy' right now. You've really done all that you can do by telling her how you feel. I don't want to sound too harsh, I'm just keeping things in perspective. You don't want to be the guy she turns to when she's having a fight with her boyfriend. And you definitely do not want to be the rebound guy if and when they do break up. Take it slow. If they're constantly breaking up and making up, sooner or later she's going to figure out on her own that the relationship isn't working. But it wouldn't be wise in the long run for her to break it off with him because of you.
Thank you for your honest response. and no, you are not being harsh at all. I mean, that's why a lot of us post questions on here anyway right? to get a 2nd (or 3rd) opinion on things and keep things in perspective. Patience have always been one of my strong points, so I guess I really shouldn't just throw that out the window. Really, you bring up some great points and I've never really thought of things this way. so thanks again - 4 months ago
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And I know this sounds stupid on my part, but I'm naive enough to really hold myself down to people and hope for the best. Yes, it hasn't always turned out well in the past and it hurts. I guess I'm just more trusting of people and situations >. < - 4 months ago
That is excellent that you told her how you felt. You have done everything to show her how much you genuinely care for her. She needs to recognize, on her own time, and own terms if she truly lucky to have a "friend" who is there for her. The ball is in her court now. So it's about time she realizes that her present boyfriend is a jerk and she needs to move on now. She needs to find that strength within. Meaning she needs to realize that she is indeed worth it. She needs to begin respecting herself. And finding the confidence to leave this guy. Only time will tell if you have moved out of the friendship zone into relationship zone. It is all up to her now.
Thanks, I guess I'll just have to be patient eh? I'm actually currently working on translating the sequel to her favorite novel from Japanese into English. (it's a love story) and I think I might leave some interesting hints/notes depending on how she's doing with her boyfriend by the time I finish (which will probably take a month) - 4 months ago
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I am sure she will like it! If she is as clever as you describe her, surely she will understand your subtle hints. - 4 months ago
It sounds good on your part because she is trusting you. She is telling these secrets and getting emotional with you. I'd say you got your leg in the door. So just let the rest happen
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How do they typically respond?
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