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He cheated on me what's next?

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Anonymous User (Age:25 to 29)     When: 4 months ago
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My guy cheated on me with a friend of mine. He has total remorse for what he did. He cried a lot he has been smoking. Me forgiving him think would give him grounds that his behavior is ok. I know he loves but is this just a show. How do I know he is not going to do it again. The thing is I don't know. We have a solid friendship for 5 years but we have only been dating for 4 months. Am I weak because I am taking in his sorrow. Please any advice to better the situation

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jbone79 (Age:25 to 29)      When: 4 months ago
Break up with him and find someone else. For every 1 girl or guy that stays in a relationship with a douchebag that cheats on you, you miss out on a 1,000,000,000 who won't. Forgiving him for cheating is okay. It's the hallmark of a good person to forgive. But that doesn't mean you should stay with him.

Go out there and get a faithful companion! There's no excuse for a man or woman to cheat on their partner. It's forgivable, but intolerable. Because how many days and nights from this point on forward do you want to have that open ended question of trust in your head?. I didn't think so. I'm not perfect, but at least I sleep good at night. -j
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DaBlah (Age:18 to 24)      When: 4 months ago
If you have known this person for five years you should know at least something about his personality. I actually kissed my best friend who's a girl. She wasn't ready for it and I was honestly sorry for kissing her. She thought it over and decided that I was being honest with her and forgave me. That's the question you have to ask right now. Is do I know him well enough that he would be honest with me. Or is this just a way to manipulate you and have it both ways. Honestly I'm glad that my best friend forgave me and everyone deserves a second chance if they truly learned there lesson. Question to ask your self is did he truly learn it or is he pretending. You known him for 5 years. Think about they type of person he is.
I hope it works out.
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Anonymous User (Age:Under 18)      When: 4 months ago
Since he cheating again, I would break up with him. Don't give him another chance. Anyone
deserves someone who is faithful. You need to find a guy who is faithful to you.
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samthan (Age:25 to 29)      When: 4 months ago
Its really hard to get over cheating. Are you guys going on a break now. You said you were friends before you dated does he have a history of cheating. Just asking question that you need to think about I been cheated on and its really hurt. Will you ever trust him again
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KittyKisses-2u (Age:Under 18)      When: 4 months ago
Feeling empathy is never a weakness. Forgiveness is a noble quality, when not overdone. It isn't wrong for you to feel bad that he's so shaken up by this whole thing. But do let him learn his lesson.

Cheating is never a good thing, especially when it's done with a friend. That must hurt. =( Did your friend know you two were together when this happened? If so, did she ever apologize to you? Because if she knew about you two, then it's just as much her fault as it is his.

I'd say that maybe you two could start over as friends again, and have him earn your trust before you fully forgive him. Don't let him rush you back into a relationship if you're not fully ready to trust him again. Let him prove to you that he's made his mistake and learned from it before you let go of what has been done.

Let him know how much this has hurt you, and that you would never tolerate it again. Make sure he's clear on that.

I hope I was able to help you. Best wishes. =]
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Anonymous User (Age:36 to 45)      When: 4 months ago
I think the question is here - can you get over him cheating? Perhaps he made a mistake - perhaps he's just not a good guy - that's something you probably have a gut feeling for. What you need to think about is - is this going to be something that you worry about and think about for years to come, or can you get over it? You can't change the past - if it's going to be something that you can't get over, it's better that you tell him that and get out now- if you can, you need to think about how much you trust him and make it very clear that it can't happen again. If he's been a friend for 5 years, you probably know if this was a mistake, or if he's genuinely untrustworthy. GOod luck.
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