Is dating a 50 year old man wrong for a 16 year old girl?

yes

Wrong? No. Unacceptable in the US? Yes.

People in the States have a tendency of close-mindedness and hostility towards things or ideas that are different or otherwise not "the norm". But honestly, there is nothing wrong with your decision. There is nothing wrong with "age gaps" in a relationship, big or small.

Legally, you are still a minor though, and despite the age of consent being 16 in some states, there usually is a maximum number of years older a partner can be before it does in fact become illegal, at least in terms of sexual activity. Though once you are 18, no one can say anything. Until then, just be careful.

aww...dear!...

What are you doing? :) bless.



Please, ignore this 52 year old sleeze, delete all contact information, block him and get a restraining order if you must.



Sorry but this guy is just so wrong for you on so many levels I can't even begin to explain why and I can only assume your age and teenage infatuation is causing you to fail to see how utterly flawed this whole scenario is.

"No one hear can judge him at alll! they have never met the poor bloke. "

He is 52 and she is under 18, that alone is enough to let us know what this guy is about.

Ask yourself this: If this guy is so great how come he has to resort to picking up young girls who don't know any better?

OP, he is a creep, please just...cut off contact with him and if he persists tell your parents so they can ensure he gets slapped fully by the law. Just because something is legal doesn't make it right or acceptable.

and there are laws agains it...
16 may be the age of consent as long as there isn't a 7 year age gap between the elder...

thats f***ing weird as hell

huh duh damn girl you crazy don't wanna say he using you but he is, u're sixteen come on really

WHAT? I don't care where you are in the united states unless you have a baby it is illegal ANYWHERE in this country so look up the law a little better and yes in europe its the norm and legal but is so wrong you tell me where your fom or give me a number and I will have his ass locked up myself I will fly down there and slap his ass right in the face with the papers saying its illegal then have his child molesting ass locked up where he belongs that man belongs in jail and deserves to get things shoved up in his ass while he is in there that's completely disgusting and your parents must chimps or monkeys to let you do that you have a messed up life and I am sorry to hear that and I hope one day you realized how much of a mistake that is

Yeah in the US, you seem to have more freedom, but in practice it seems to be exercised in the realm of prejudice and judgement rather than having a good time.

okay look at it this way... if you have a kid when you are older... and they got to 16 years of age... would you want them dating a 52 year old man?

I don't care how cute or sexy you are, your an idiot. He's only using you for sex, and I'm quite sure he wants you to believe he's a "sweet guy". Run away while you still can, or just continue this phase that will only lead to more consequences in the future.

That's f***ed up! And by the way this is not Europe this is north America and also that so really gross!

thats nasty... and what's okay in Europe is not okay in the U.S... that's very immoral.

So you lost your virginity to a 50 year old guy?

Here we go with the in the United States we are more closed minded thing.

someone has a daddy complex lolol

Obvious troll is obvious.

your dating a guy that is 50?...WTFFF that is f***ing retarded, what kind of sick man would date a 16 year old girl when he is f***ing 50, he could be your grandfather ffs

Yeah its wrong. Good for him thou...lol. I thought my 4 year difference was a problem, but not now...lmao. You are looking for a sugar daddy. What kind of life experience could you be looking for.

i agree with one of the other post... haha... watch yourself... you just may end up on dateline or msnbc or any other nationally broadcasted network for a missing persons report or another rape/murder vic... you know... the usual here in the states... but, it is your choice as sad as that is because you're only 16... sorry to sound like an ass... but I am pretty blunt... and seeing people get raped and murdered isn't cool especially by creepy old dudes who are probably older than your parents...

If you like him, who cares. I mean some older men are weird but some are really nice!

wow...
uhhh be careful ?

This kinda stuff frightens me...i think you need to watch Dateline NBC's To Catch a Predator. You need to realize that there are crazy people out there that will prey on young attractive girls like yourself.

You may be fascinated by how much knowledge he has and such, but don't let that smoke screen distract you, he's making you feel extra comfortable and is exploiting you. Let's be honest, your 16, attractive, and naive. You may not think your naive, but he does...and is manipulating your emotions making you think that you are safe.

It's definitely wrong to date a 50 year old man especially if your 16. I hope you wake up and realize what is going on, because even people that don't know you wouldn't want anything bad to happen to you. Situations like these cause mass controversy because your so young and he's so old. Your still going through hormonal changes and he's going through a mid-life crisis.

If you do not like guys your age...try dating guys your age from out of town or someone who is about 2 years older than you. The reason why you probably don't like guys your age is because they are extremely immature and you are more mature for your age.

There are too many guys out there for you, that are close or around your age. This 50 year old guy was in his mid thirties when you were born. It's ridiculous.

I'm not sure what type of fun a 16 year old girl is looking for, but a 50 year old man is looking for one thing sexual fun, because his wife is not as active sexually with him. Think about it a little. Use your head...

Good Luck!

gross

and a troll.

This is wrong on all level. I don't care if you are experimenting. Why can't he find someone close to his age or a legal adult that isn't a teenager. This may be something you want to do, but he knows you're young and is taking advantage of you and the situation. When a 50 year old man wants to have sex with a16 year old girl, you have to question why. Stay away from him.

I don't agree with this at all...Personally I think that he's going to take advantage of you in some way shape or form...End it now because lets face it...What he is doing is wrong...

It isn't VERY considerate of him to date you. He's three times your age.

It's inappropriate for him to consider dating you. He's old enough to be your father. There's a well know rule. Half his age divided by two and then add seven. That means the youngest woman he should consider dating is 32 years old. You're half that age. You two can be platonic friends but that's it.

Thats just so wrong no matter what state your in.

Ewwwww

You got many answers but I just want to say, I'm from Europe, and we do not have sex since we are 12 or something. Seriously. GB has big problem with teen pregnancies but generally average age is like 16 or 17. Higher in Holland, lower in GB. And yes we are more open minded than you but please do not make Europe seem like a land of pornography. We are just not so obsessed with sex as you are^^

OMFG W.T.F


That is soooo f***ing wrong on so many levels. I don't care who you are or what believe in. That's f***ing wrong and it's f***ing scary.

Didn't your parents raise yowith any morals? Please see a psychologist about this if you think this is ok. Please. You need help.

U are a f***ing idiot...go ruin ur life idc if you hook up with him people are only going to look at you like a slut

both of you are creeps if you think this is right.

OMFG you lost your virginity to a 50 year old?
thats wrong on every level
he should be married and have a family at 50 wtf is going on!?!?!?

TO CATCH A PREDATOR much?

Think of it this way... if you have lived on this earth for 50 years... why would you ever find satisfaction in a companion that is a third of that age? Men that are 50 are much more established and have experienced many more things than you have, and at that point are looking for the real deal.

What I' trying to get it is that he is using you for sex, and that since this is illegal (as you are under 18), he could go to jail for this. I know you think you know him really well... but he is a sick man and you are putting your life and safety at stake. stop contacting him immediately before someone finds your dead body in a ditch.

Any 52-year-old man who dates a teenager has issues, I don't care how nice he is. So does the teenager; older men wouldn't prey on her otherwise.

And this isn't Europe. Even if it was, having sex at 12 doesn't mean they're having it with someone 30 years older than them.

i can understand liking older guys but someone whos 30+ years older is wrong. you're still really young and I doubt you understand the situation. it's possible that he can get in serious trouble for being with you.

I did forget to say one thing!... 16 is soooo sooo sooo soooooooooo young. Just be careful of laws..

In all honesty if you were 20 it wouldn't sound as bad... but that isn't going to stop you is it lol :)
Just be careful. really. Could tell you all the tings you already know... and have been told a million time... it change what you wanna do tho.

Just felt like making a point in the last comment...

xxx

PEDOPHILIA!
If rape were legal in some states & Europe would that make it right too? How about theft, or any other type of abuse? But hey, maybe he's a pimp...

I am sorry, but a 50y.o. man chasing after a 16y.o. girl equals one thing - CREEPY OLD MAN! If he's going through the midlife crisis, he can buy a porche like the rest do!

...of course, you're 16... I'm sure you already know it all and have all the answers about what to do with your life...that's the beauty of youth.

good luck and enjoy the low-life while you can.

i am with you in a way. I like older guys too but I haven't been with a guy that is 50 I think the oldest guy I was with was 35 or 36 or so he said. I mostly go for later 20's early 30's. Guys our age have no idea how do work things haha. I a fuzzy on who I lost my virginity to cause I was 13 and the guy was 13 and I really don't know if it went in lol but like a month after that I had sex with this guy who was 26 and he got the job done for sure ha. don't worry about age just be careful girl

well if that's what makes you happy and its legal, then by all means do what makes you happy... it doesn't matter what any1 else says.
this is america-- so many different ppl-- not every1 goes the same route.

goodluck with everything =]

omg like totally you are so cool I wish I cud get a 50 year old man too do dirty things with then I would be soooooo cool and everyone would be sooooo jelous of me because I am so cool like u!

im so jellous! I love hairy europeans to they are so sexyyy

Oh my god. . . I will definitely be keeping a watch out for you on Dateline NBC. . . You have gotten yourself into deep trouble. I would be so careful hun. . Oh my god. . . If I knew my daughter was dating a man older then me, she wld never see the sun ever again.

yuck

i personally find this a little bit disguisting. I'm pretty sure you can do a lot better! he's old enough to be your grandfather isn't that just a little bit disturbing to you? I mean everyone says "love is love" but I think there's a time when you gotta draw the line. if this was in another country it would be considered rape if you did anything with him. I know you want to experiance life but maybe experiance it with someone a little closer to your age !

Holy daddy issues.

If you don't want anyone's opinions whatever. I could care less what you do. Hopefully you don't get pregnant that would be terrible for the gene pool. If anything bad happens to you, remember this post and don't come back crying for sympathy because you knew what you were getting into.

My girl. I have no words.except there are a lot of guys around your age and even in thier 20's you can experience life with even if they are a LITTLE older than you.So I'm not saying its wrong because I like older guys too.But no NORMAL 50 year old would want to chill with a 16 year old in "that way" Like I think that if you wanted to hang with a guy who was in his 20's that would be more reasonable ,you know what I mean.This guy could use you in so many different ways. I really hope you find someone else to explore the world with who is not 50. Best of luck to you hun xoxo

i personally think its discuting. he should go to jail for this. he is old enough to be your father, and even grandpa.
youre beautiful. go find a guy your own age. there's plenty out there.
you have a lot going for you, you are still so young, don't ruin it with him.