I met this guy, he is in his last years of residency for heart surgery. He is originally from Germany and has lived in the US for 10 years now. We talked for a few weeks and he seemed like the perfect guy. He communicated that he was busy finishing up residency but had reached a point in his life where he wanted a companion because when not at work he gets lonely.
He stated that he would love to have a companion to talk to and travel with. He also asked me if I was interested in a long term relationship with someone; however communicated that he wanted to take his time.
Of course I questioned, why he wasn't dating someone in this residency program, and he stated that most the women were married already. He stated that he is now doing laboratory research and had a little more time available than usual. He would call at least once every other day to check up on me from the hospital, even though the phones call only lasted a minute or so before he had to go back to work.
Well one day while over my house kissing lead to other things and we ended up having sex. It was wonderful. I could tell he was very attracted to me and wanted to have sex. He was getting really turned on by our kissing, but he told me that he didn't want to rush things and have me do something I would regret; however I was turned on too and we end up having sex. We had plans for that weekend, which got canceled because he got called in that morning to the hospital. He emailed from work telling me he was still there and that we should reschedule our date.
All of sudden he is so busy he hasn't called in two weeks. I talked to him last Sunday, I caught him at the hospital so we had to talk fast. I told him how I felt about everything, being that I kind felt like he was blowing me off because he hadn't called me much after the sex. He reassured me that, that wasn't the reason for the absence of calls. He told me he had been extremely busy. Since he was at work he promised to call me when he got home and he did, it was around 1 in the morning.
Again he reassured me that wasn't just trying to hit it and run, if you know what I mean. He apologized for not calling and told me that this was extremely difficult because of his schedule. He wished me a good night and sweet dreams and now I haven't heard from him since. I called a few days ago and he didn't pick up, and just kept ringing. I even sent him a little ecard over the net and he hasn't checked his email either or seen my card (you get an email when the person has seen it).
Honestly I have never been in this situation before. I always wait 'til I am in a serious relationship to have sex. And I feel like shit. NO, I feel lower than shit. I really don't know if he is just really busy or secretly ignoring me. I am shocked, angry, and I feel used. I am thinking how can this sweet guy play me like this. I never saw it coming at all.
Update: I don't know if it is because I call too much. I mean I called like 3 times this week on different days just so I can let him know I am still here interested. But that was when I thought he was not calling because he was busy, now I don't know
7 months ago
Well he wants to get with you but is shy and scared. Ahh shit you gave it up with out commitment so he lost interest. If sex was what he wanted now he is relieved now he got what he wanted. But now you caught him and making him feeling bad for being a ass which is good. If he feels your anger an frustration it might make him think, damn we ain't in a relationship and she all emotional.
If you know his hours call when he gets off work. But if he hasn't called you, at first he felt bad it seems when you told him that but it seems like he got over it and is moving on. Sorry but I wouldn't focus on this asshole. I know he's busy with work but he is playin if he can't make a simple phone call. To me it seems like he wanted ass, he got it now his confidence is boosted to get other pussy. Sorry to be vulgar. But hey. If he wants to call he will make time. If he doesn't he won't. That part is simple. I mean how long does a simple phone call take. But don't wait up for him no more move on. This is unfair to you. You deserve someone who can appreciate you. You seem like a good loving person and have good intentions. Good?
But why would he need to boost his confidence. He's a Doctor , he gets pussy thrown at him all the time by nurses and other women. Why go out of your way to lie and deceive someone just to get some panties. It seems like too much work. Why say you want a relationship and etc. More importantly being he is a Doctor and older I would think he would be smart enough to realize that he doesn't have to play childish boyish games to get pussy. Those games are for immature little boys not MEN - 7 months ago
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Its a conquer thing. Knowing that he can get what he wants. You say you want a relationship because sometimes people say anything to get some pussy and when they get it they don't say it anymore. Well men will stay boys till the day they die, it keeps us young. I think he just took you for granted. I learned that from my x. She wouldn't give it up till we got together and then it still took two weeks after that. She knew what I was after but I told her also. But she trapped me that way and I fell in lo - 7 months ago
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But I had to call a quits because she lie too much. If someone wants to be with you they will make time. You're a smart lady go with what your gut says. Not your heart. - 7 months ago
I understand what you are going through because the same thing is happening to me right now.. and I know it is hard because to us a phone call or a text takes 2 min just to let us know that they are thinking bout us but if the guy is really super busy and stressed out (and being a resident more than likely is...) because this is the next chapter of their life then 2 min is a lot to ask for. I am sure he has not forgotten about you just give it time to see what happens once things calm down. I do agree that you should not call or text him so often.. let him make the next move when he is ready. And you definitely should not feel bad about having sex with him.. things will work out!
This kind of sounds like what I'm going through but of course your situation is more serious, I don't what guys problems are. I don't know why they get so caught up in their shit that they can't return a call. It's like you wanted me but, now I'm nothing I know how you feel to an existent. And it's so hard not to call, even if all your friends say not to. So I know how pissed you must feel because, I'm pissed at this guy I'm messing with and you must be so angry because, like I said before your situation is so much more serious then my own. Your not alone girl!
A) It's not the biggest mistake of your life B) he IS a resident and probably working 24 hour shifts C) DO NOT call/text/email him again. Three times in one week is too many, he'll start to feel cornered. And we all know about being cornered: you feel pressured and come out fighting!
Just let it be and if he calls, emails, or texts, then great. If not, then choose whatever lesson you can from meeting him and move on to a live a happy life!!
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When: 7 months ago
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