Ok about over a year ago my guy cheated on me cause he was drunk I forgive him we been on a break since. It been hard he still with someone else , yet I know he loves me and we still hang out and sleep together. He knew he was hurting me but now he says he will stop cause I really want him too. We are going to try and work on things and then maybe get back into a relationship if things go better. Do you think he can change and be loyal. Do you think he will still sleeping with her? Do you think if I got back into a relationship with him he could be loyal do you think he learned from his experience
Update: I know he loves me and I totally love him. His parents don't even know we are on a break. They adore me.
7 months ago
Update: Thanks for your advice I am not sure what to do. I really love him and want it to work. If he says he will stop sleeping with her maybe I should see if he really will. We are trying to work things out
7 months ago
You are probably going to hate me, but here is what I see. I see a guy, who sleeps around with different women because he can. All he has to do is tell you what you want to hear, and everything will be okay. I feel sorry for you, because it is fairly obvious that you really do love him. To be able to put up with his bs, and still want to be with him proves it. The truth is, (and I'm sure you already know this) you are better off without him. I know for a fact that you are disagreeing with me right now. But ask yourself: If he really loves me, or even cared about me, why would he be with anyone else? Like I said earlier, because he can. I've been cheated on myself, so I know how you are feeling.
But you are living in denial thinking he can change. The truth is, he may or may not change, but why would you want to wait around to find out. Be happy with the good memories you shared, but move on and learn from this. You'll be happy you did (Even though you can't see it right now).
Thanks for the advice I just don't know what to do. I love him so much and maybe I am in detail I don't really think he a player. Yes he made mistakes he is kind of controlling at times he worries that I am going to cheat during the break I did kiss someone at a bar he was real hurt I haven't done anything since. I really do love him - 7 months ago
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You'll hear everybody giving you the same advice. "Once a cheater. ", "You're better off without him. " blah blah blah. This is advice from people who have already gone through it. Yet we still tend to follow our heart. You'll never really understand what we are saying until you go through it yourself. Experience is the best teacher. So make your mistakes, that's the only way you'll grow. Just remember to stay true to yourself, and never let anyone take advantage over you. - 7 months ago
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I get your advice maybe I am a doormat I am still stayin around yes he really is being an idiot and asshole I am tryin to make him happy I do love him and I know he loves me. he needs to stop sleepin with the other girl - 6 months ago
I don't really understand the situation. Does he actually have another girlfriend now and if so, does she know about you? If not, does she know that you're sleeping with him? Honestly, I think either way, this guy seems like bad news. I think he should have stopped sleeping with her a long time ago if he knows he's hurting you. If you don't know if you trust him right now, chances are you don't and you won't. In my own opinion, once a cheater- always a cheater especially if he got away with it once. I would drop him and find a new guy.
Its hard to explain we are on a break yet we still hang out and sleep together. Yes the girl knows about me she also knows we are still sleeping together he talk to her about me and how much he loves me. he going to stop sleeping with her and just be her friends we are trying to work things out. The fact is this girl now says she loves him he doesn't love her back he loves me. Its a confusing situation. I just want to change and if we get back into a relationship that he doesn't cheat. - 7 months ago
(Age:25 to 29)
When: 7 months ago
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