I've been dating this guy for about a month and we're really into each other. He said he's never been this happy before or had this much fun and he loves being with me.
So, a week into our relationship he dumps this on me. This is his ex that he dated for almost a year (his longest relationship) and the girl he lost his virginity to. So obviously I'm jealous of her. Well he comes out one day and tells me she's pregnant and it's probably his. Of course I promised to stay with him because I wouldn't leave a guy because of that. That's just cruel.
I'm actually getting used to the idea that I'm going to be dating a guy who's a father. The thing is the girl doesn't want me involved with the kid just in case our relationship doesn't work. My boyfriend agrees. And he said it in a way that made it sound like he had no confidence in our relationship at all. Maybe I'm just being paranoid.
The kid won't be born for another 6 months or so. If we're still together then do you think he'll have more confidence in our relationship to let me be there for his kid? I love kids and I've always wanted to be a mother. I'm only 19 so step-mother would be great for now! I don't think I'm asking too much. I know the final decision is my boyfriend and his ex's. Please help me to deal with this.
I think you really should think about this before you continue with this guy. Being with someone who has kids is not easy. I am in that situation. And I would think that eventually he will (when the baby is born). . He may want to try and get back together with her for babies sake or he wants to try and rekindle things to be a family type thing. If I was you I think I would walk away! Being in a marriage now that he has kids from previous relationship. He goes to see his kids on teh weekends. I have heard other stories from 2nd wifes and girlfriends that their partners don't want them to attend things because the ex is going to be there. This doesn't change. Even when the kids are over 18. My partners oldest is older than me 32. I don't know just seems like too much for someone your age. You may not see that now. But you could if you stay. They are always going to be in each others lives because they have a CHILD together. And sounds like this guy was on the rebound before you. He has only been separate from her for 2 months. Too many hot guys out there to just pick someone with a lot of baggage. Do you some research on 2nd wifes. And etc. Plus financial as well. So a lot to think about.
He told me that they were actually happier apart than they were together and that she's happier too which is the only thing they agree on. I'm almost positive they aren't getting back together again. The only thing she wants from him is for him to be there for the kid. - 4 months ago
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