A few months after I met my boyfriend, I found a box of condoms which he had used two out of the original twelve before he met me. Months later, I counted only nine! I thought I must have miss counted but dead certain there was ten. We have never used condoms. Ever. I let it go but kept track of the numbers of condoms. A couple of months later, I noticed the box was messed with and counted seven! I confronted him, and he gave me the dumbest excuse. He told me he was doing a trick with a wine bottle. He told me he had gone to the store and bought a $3 bottle of wine for the trick. When I asked for some kind of proof , he said he had thrown away the condoms, bottle , and receipt. How convenient! I think he's a real bad liar. Could have come up with a way better excuse. I'm not buying it one bit. After reading all the comments/feedbacks, I would like to believe that he used them to masturbate with and is embarrassed to tell me about it, but why would any guy masturbate with a condom? He swears that there is absolutely no one else. He even cried. I've lost total trust for him. Please help me understand.
Make him do the trick with the wine bottle and condom again. Just go out one day buy a bottle of wine and have a condom. When he comes home say "I want to see the trick and if I like it you get to F*ck me! " When he fails then say. "nah I'm not in the mood. Later! "
Then learn a magic trick yourself.
The next week show him the magic trick. Tell him this guy at work showed you. Tell him you really liked the trick and had the guy show you how to do it. :)
If you want to know if your guy is really cheating on you then poke holes in all the condom packages and wait a few weeks. If he has that troubled look later on that means his acquaintances told him that they are pregnant with his child. You can get back at him for cheating on you and you find out the truth about the disappearing condoms at the same time.
Hey sequinfanrple it's just a suggestion. The Question Asker doesn't have to take me serious. Although, I still think it's a pretty good idea. - 4 months ago
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I think he may be using the condoms, because the girl probably wants to protect herself from any possible diseases. By the way, he and I don't have any STDs. I know he prefers to have sex without a condom. The use of the condom was definitely not his choice. He'll probably buy another box of condoms, now that he knows that I'm aware of the ones in our drawer. When he does, I'll find it and it will be the last that he'll see of me. Thank you for your suggestion. - 4 months ago
"self masturbation" with a condom can be a possibility. Might have reasons attached to it too. Doesn't want it to be messy, or perhaps he fantasizes about someone and is just wanking on that. Or perhaps testing whether the condom hold good still after these many months, in case he does have plans to bang someone :-)
Its more messy to masturbate with a condom - 4 months ago
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I meant more in terms if the surrounding than the hand in question ;-) - 4 months ago
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I would have loved to hear that he was using it for masturbation than knowing that it was used with someone else. His excuse was totally lame and not plausible in any way. Thank you for your advice. - 4 months ago
I tried to masturbate with a condom before but it got annoying. Well it could be the truth, just remember this old saying, if you don't trust you die. I can't personally tell if he is lying or not, ask to see the trick he tried to do because you think it would be hella funny, see if there really is a trick, try to understand the statement and get more evidence and info before you jump to conclusions. That's what I try to do.
I don't think I need to ask him to do the trick, because I am almost 100% certain that he had sex with someone else. Despite his professing of absolute commitment, love and devotion to me, I still believe that he gave in to his urges. It was probably with an old friend or someone he met at his place of work. He works at a bar/lounge in a very upscale and affluent area. It's eating away at my heart. I love him but a huge part of me wants to let him go. Thank you for your feedback. - 4 months ago
Wow, a wine bottle? That's a new one. Yes, he's having protected sex outside your relationship. You already know what is going on, you are a smart woman.
If these were loose condoms, then it would be easier to forgive in this situation. I've lost condoms from a package just by misplacing them and got accused of using them. My boyfriend has tried to use many different ways to keep a clean area after masturbating. I would not be surprised if he has done it with a condom on. It seems likely and your man is probably just embarrassed to share this with you. If he cried, and only you would know if it was a real cry, then he was frustrated with the question and wants you to trust him more than he can explain to you. I say don't make a big deal about 1 condom. It's when you find a used one laying around, or underwear that's not yours that you should worry. Most likely if he masturbated with it, he threw that sucker away asap. I think most guys are embarrassed by their self-pleasures, especially since most of them grew up being told not to play with it.
Thank you for your comment. I'd like to believe that he was using it for masturbation, but when you love someone so much, you don't want to imagine the worse. I don't have concrete proof, so I just have to try to move past all this by giving him the benefit of the doubt. It's really hard, because a great percent of me still believe otherwise. I don't want to throw away what we have over assumptions without absolute and irrefutable proof that he cheated on me. - 3 months ago
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