I just wanna know why most of the girls I have known we're like friends at first and we never talk about dating and stuff but all of the sudden they are in love? I can't get it this happened like 3 or 4 times with me. i mean can't a guy and a girl just be friends and be themselves together without her falling in love with him later on !?
and the thing that is painful for me is like when I have to tell the girl that we're just friends. it feels hard for me to do that so I don't hurt the girl's feelings
i don't know how to act anymore!
why do you girls put us in such hard situations ? do you like to get hurt ?
I agree with WayTooPopular. Girls want to be with people they already know to be great guys. And if so, they'd want to date them - even though they know somewhere deep down - It might not work but hell maybe it will. But lots of girls aren't like that and no of course girls don't want to get hurt - that's why they'd consider their bfff in the first place you know? I have guy friends and I am so close to them - people actually want us to go out. Not gonna happen - he's like my freakin' brother. We just know WAY too much about each other. He knows more about me then my own mother. So, point being taken - that in my case I wouldn't go out with my guy best friend. If it ever got to that point - I'll make sure both of us agree and not just one out of the two.
The best thing to do in this case is, before you befriend a girl - just bring out a point on how you hate it when a guy and a girl can't be just friends. Loop your point in a way - where the girl would already know that she needs to be JUST friends with you. Unless of course - you end up liking her then things will change. There are so many different factors to this. Just make it clear for all of them.
One of my very best friends is a guy. We get along great and have never crossed from friendship into something more. And yeah, I had a crush on him for a while, but after a bit it went away. Because he's been with his girlfriend for so long, and she's my friend too, I would never want to put him in a position where he would have to pick between us. So I just didn't make my feelings known, and before too long they went away.
I think now that I've had feelings for him that didn't last, it lets us get closer now. I never said anything to him about it, and I highly doubt he knew, cause he never acted any different. When my feelings for him went away, we just kept on doing what we'd always done. As friends. And it's awesome. I wouldn't want it any other way.
I have a few guy friends who are just friends. That said when I was younger and not in a relationship I kissed all my guy friends-probably on more than one occasion. and now I'm newly single-well on a break from my bf-2 of my guy friends have offered to be an friends with benefits for me. So guys are as bad for this as girls!
i have 3 close guy friends and I honestly find them to be better friends than any girls I've been friends with I can tell them everything they tell me everything I don't know what id do without them at times
i have always had close guy friends - I am married now and still have a couple guys I'm close with. some people may thing that's weird, but I do think that guys and girls can be just friends. it CAN get complicated and you do run the risk of people developing feelings. but that doesn't mean it NEVER works or that it's not worth it. you just need to make sure your feelings (strictly of friendship) are laid out from the beginning ;-)
All I have to say is this. When one spends a lot of time with with one and other, they get closer. When they get closer, they begin to know each other. After they begin to know each other, then feelings begin to develop. Some times people try not to think about it, but hey it happens. Because the more spends time with each other, the more heavy feelings get, and then it is hard to think of each other as being friends. Then if one or the other talks about who she/he likes, then the other gets jealous. That is part of life.
We get comfortable with guys we know as friends I guess. There's the kind of a feeling of "I'll be safe with him." I guess. Well at least for me . . . I've been that girl.
But why would you put your friend in this kind of situation? what if he doesn't feel the same? how would that be for both of you? - 2 months ago
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Well, what can you say? I guess they felt maybe there was a mutual bond there and that you felt some kind of love beyond a friendship stance with them. - 2 months ago
girls like dating guys they personally know are ok because when randomly dating they risk running into more douchebags
if a girl knows you and likes what she knows she'll get interested eventually, especially if her other options all turn out to really suck, that seems like when girls turn to their guy friends the most. Like after a rough relationship and whatnot
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