my husband beat me. I have some scratches and some bruises on my back and I have a bruised rib. what should I do. I have a 2 year old. and I don't want to take her away from her father after he beats me he rapes me. help. any advice.
Trust me I am already gone I am in germany right now. going to my parents house. - 2 months ago
Answerer
GodBless and GodSpeed.
I am so grateful you got away, too many people don't figure it out until it is way too late. - 2 months ago
Question Asker
If he is going to beet me, fine let him. but if he ever touches my daughter there will be hell to pay. - 2 months ago
Answerer
Good, now stay away from him. No matter what he says or does, no matter how much he begs and says he'll change, he won't. If he ever gets you alone, he'll make you pay for not obeying. Don't ever give him that chance. - 2 months ago
Question Asker
I won't the only thing am worring about is that he knows where I would go if I was to run away. he knows were my parents live and what if he takes my child. - 2 months ago
Answerer
Talk to the battered women's organization. Get an order of protection. This goes a long way toward allaying foolish behavior because the OofP puts the whole matter on the legal radar. Having one means he can't come near you without risking arrest. - 2 months ago
Question Asker
Would it interfere with my child's life. - 2 months ago
Like every1 has said get out now call the police and get him locked up and move away sooner or later ur daughter will see you getting hit and will think that's acceptable and will allow it to happen to her down the road or she could get hit by him down the road or raped just get out good luck
Do you and your daughter a favor and get out of there as soon as possible. There is no call ever for someone to beat and rape you. And if you don't do it now then you never know when he might start doing it to her.
The next time it happens call the cops. You can probably go into the cops now. There are abuse hotlines (do a google search for 'spouse abuse hotline') that can talk you through the legalities and give you more educated advice than probably anybody on this site.
I have seen too many women that are abused by their spouses and they think they can't leave. That is absolutely not true! Most of all even if you don't do it for yourself do it for your daughter so that the next relationship you are in you can create one that is loving and it gives her an example to live by.
Do a search for 'spouse abuse hotline' in your area. Follow their advice. They are going to be trained in the best way to help you and your daughter. TAKE ACTION NOW - 2 months ago
Question Asker
We are now at the airport - 2 months ago
Answerer
Good for you! Remember you may have doubts down the road because you will tend to forget the bad things that have happened. Just remember that if nothing else it is for the safety of your daughter.
Good luck. - 2 months ago
Question Asker
We are in germany now and we are going to my parents house. I am in taxo (taxi) - 2 months ago
Um have you ever of "i have tried." I don't want to put my daughter in more danger then she already is. - 2 months ago
Answerer
There is no, "I have tried." Either you have done it, or you haven't. Quit making up excuses. If you really love your daughter, you will call the police, and get out of that situation. You can't be in any more danger then you're in right now. - 2 months ago
Question Asker
Ok I am going to call the police right now. I am getting my daughters stuff together - 2 months ago
Answerer
Good! You have the marks. And there is a law that if they are called on a domestic abuse, He's going to jail. I can't confirm how long or whatever, but they will take him off in handcuffs. And then get yourself out of there. Take all your stuff and find someone to move in with. Even if you have to stay in a motel. Any place is better then where you're at. NO GIRL deserves to get touched in that way by a guy, EVER!!! - 2 months ago
Question Asker
We are going to germany with my parents. - 2 months ago
Answerer
Well good. But call the cops. He needs this on his record. Because if he will do it to you, he will do it to other women. But just remember that things will get better. You're taking the proper steps to get out of a horrid situation. And things will get better. - 2 months ago
Question Asker
I really hope things get batter. sorry if things are spelt wrong in a hurry. - 2 months ago
Are you kidding me? You don't want to take your child away from her father, well what's going to happen when he takes you (your life) from her, what happens to her. If this continues she's going to notice anyway and do you want someone like that for her. I have been in your position seriously I did not have a child then but he used to go and hang out with friends and drink and then come home and fight with me and on occasion he would throw me into the corner of the couch and with his fingers around my throat Rape Me. Well one day I got tired of being beat on and lied too. He came home and had a fit I let him fall into a deep sleep I snuck out of the house and went to my best friends house (R.I.P Allison) and she saw how I looked, we went back to the house and went in the back door through the kitchen and we each grabbed something she grabbed a skillet and I grabbed a pot and we crept up stairs and he woke up to us whipping his ass. We layed his ass out and I grabbed my things and left and he never said another word to me because I told him I would Kill him first. I am not saying what I did was the best thing to do But you gotta figure out the best way to leave him. I understand that you may love him but your love for him ain't worth dying for. I wish you and your child all the best and may you find peace and comfort.
If he has no problem abusing and raping the woman he supposedly loves, what would stop him from hurting his child? She needs to be away from him, that is not a healthy situation at all
What are you waiting for, for him to beat your child, or maybe you want to have your child listen to him beat you. Get out of the relationship, you are doing more harm to your child by staying in that kind of a situation, then you would ever be doing by getting out of it. Children are NOT stupid you may think you are hiding it from them but your not. You don't want your child to grow up thinking that, that's normal behaviour, do you?
(Age:18 to 24)
When: 2 months ago
