Why do they watch porn?

It could be a lot of things, Do you and your fiance experiment a lot in the bedroom or is just the same thing everytime. Personally when I get bored with the person I am sleeping with it is time to go. I know that sounds shallow but the physical aspect is just as important as the mental. Some guys watch porn to live vicariously through other people to realize there true fantasies. Try watching it with him and ask what he wants to do. Try to experiment with him, but make sure you are both comfortable with what you do communication is healthy and sometimes it is hard for people to talk about there sexual desires because they are embarrassed. Just approach him in a pleasant manner and ask. Don't attack him for watching porn.

let me get this right, you only have sex once a month? if that's true, you should note that he is not satisfied. Does he even know to come to you when he has urges? have you withheld sex before? your average male would prefer sex 3 times a week, daily if he is a "horndog"

Ok I was just reading your comment to gravygirl and I have to say your man sounds like either an idiot or like he has real problems, sorry. I'm not usually so mean with my answers but what he said is about the dumbest thing I have ever heard! When my husband and I got together we were at it DAILY. Usually multiple times a day. On average 2-3 times per day but sometimes as much as 4-5 times PER DAY. Now we still have sex quite a bit. Not as much as before but still a lot. We go through cycles where we still do it multiple times a day and then others where we don't for almost a whole week so I would say my best guess at an average would be 3 times per week. We've been together for NINE YEARS and neither of us is bored, neither of us is looking for someone else "more interesting" and it is plenty special and intimate when we do it. Sex is a beautiful thing, especially when you're in love. Having it more often doesn't "cheapen" it. He seems to have some pretty weird ideas about sex. EIther that or he has mental problems and is just looking for an excuse to get you off his back about it. Keeping your mate interested and keeping things "interesting" usually means MORE sex. not less. I'm seriously like mind boggled over here.

Does he know that you're willing to have sex more often? If you're not sure, you should make sure that he knows. Guys will initiate sex less often if they think that they are the only one interested. He might be trying not to bother you.

If he does know that you're willing, has something changed in the relationship? Like appearance (yours or his) or some kind of issue that might cause him to have a grudge against you? I don't think that guys withhold sex in quite the same way that girls do, but I do think they will pursue it less if they're angry or upset about something.