My problem - a long one but someone has to help me out. I need some advice.
I started to seeing this girl back in March and we got to see each other basically everyday. I loved it because it was my 1st relationship which wasn’t long distance. Within 3 weeks I asked her out and she said yes. We were both happy. I showed more feelings and emotions for the other while she sort of sat back. She told me off to bat that she didn’t want anything serious which I understood when we started seeing each other. As time progressed on we would have our battles a total of 3-4 which I thought were good that we got out. Because communication is key in relationship. She would always tell me the “I don’t know” factor though, which would get me upset because she really did know later on. When it came to personal issue of physical contact she wanted slow, I with my self-esteem high wanted fast. But I changed my pattern to be slow for her. I thought she was definitely one to care about. And before all this started meaning the dating I was actually really attracted to my friend which introduced us. She was having issues with her bf, so out of stupidity I thought I would make her jealous by going out with one of her friends from work. To prove that I am a guy that has honesty and cares for people. The plan back fired on me and I started to like this girl that I was introduced to. Well she broke up with me about 2 weeks ago and through my friend which gave me the real reason -- “I was the perfect guy but their was no chemistry“ while crying this over the phone to her. It seemed like after I said the horrific word “I LOVE YOU” everything came crashing down. And she even said a couple of days ago when we had a talk. If a girl doesn’t say that word back to you right away there is something wrong. (Hold up) I forgot to mention she didn’t want anything serious because she got out of a 6 year serious relationship. I even gave her the chance to work things out with her prince charming. He was another asshole that let this girl go. I always felt that she was waiting for him to be her prince charming with open arms to take her back and she with no doubt would leave me. Yes, I know untrusting but when you feel odd vibes what is there to think? I’ve been cheated on in the past and try not to judge or compare people to it because its unfair. But its something I have to look out for. Now I believe that even if I can't physically be with someone, just knowing that I am in their heart and/or on their mind, is a commitment in and of itself. I don’t need to hear the word back but saying key words like miss you and sorry about not coming over last night. Shows that a person cares right? And then out of the random say their no chemistry. I basically treated this girl like gold. By giving her flowers, paying for multiple dinners, giving her relief from home situations, supportive in school, buying tickets for a concert. look for part 2
I'm still hurting over it. And want to fight for her so badly. I was told when growing up the hardest thing is the battle but the outcome will be rewarding. Now I'm so lost and feel like an empty shell. I miss her so much its making me mentally and physically sick. - A month ago
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