Ok so my boyfriend and I live together and we used to spend every minute together. About six months ago I asked him if he could try to make some friends so he could go out with the guys and I could go out with the girls once in awhile, that way we could both do things we like but that the other doesn't like to do (example-going to see the girly movies he won't watch). About 2 months ago, he started going out with his friends (of both sexes) every night. He will come home from work, eat supper and then go out with friends, and on our days off of work together he goes out with friends then when he finally comes home late in the evening he goes to bed. So I tried asking him if he could try to make sure that we still get to spend some time together, he got mad and said that I just don't like him going out with other girls because I don't trust him. That's not the problem though, I have no problem with him spending time with friends, doesn't really matter what sex they are as I have many male friends as well as girl friends. I didn't ask him to just spend time with guys, or say anything about who he was spending so much time with, all I asked was for him to remember that I would like to spend time with him. I trust him and I know he's not cheating on me or anything, the girls he is around are usually his male friends girlfriends/wives or family.So that doesn't bother me. And if he doesn't try to pull the jealousy card he says: well you're the one who wanted me to make friends.
how do I get him to spend some time with me without things going back to how they used to be?
Wow. He's being a head case! All is not lost, however.
First, plan something romantic for just the two of you. He won't take the lead on this so you'll have to do it. I don't know, it doesn't have to be expensive. Make him a nice dinner with candles and some wine and then when he's relaxed start reminiscing, in a friendly way, about all the fun and romance you guys used to have together.
Sounds like the honeymoon is over, you need to figure out how to spice you love live I really don't think things you need to worry about him being needy, that phase is over.
If he's like my fiance then he holds a grudge. He may have misunderstood what you had said and took it personally. Guys can be very sensitive sometimes. So he figures, oh now she wants to hang out. Great! Maybe she's jealous or getting suspicious. I would talk to him about it and get his insight on the situation. Either that or ask him if he wants to hang out some night (give him advance notice) and tell him you'd like to go on a date or something.
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