Reality check

Excuse me. "I can't lose him" is a statement that leads to abuse. You are a unique creation of the most awesome Creator ever, and you want to be tied to a guy who treats you like a disposable diaper. I'm sorry but, any one who is not able, and willing to treat you like the awesome, wonderful, creature God made you to be, isn't for you. I know you don't feel like you are so awesome and wonderful, but the fact is, you are. You are made to be intimate with God, then one man, then your family, then your friends, community and everyone else. If you aren't intimate with God, you have no way of knowing just how precious a treasure you are.
Let me ask you a question. Since God differentiates between you and your behavior, and the enemy of your soul equates you to your behavior, who do you think wants you to hang out with a guy who makes you happy, sometimes? The enemy tells you things like; "He's better than you deserve," "Your not worthy," or "You aren't wanted." God says things like, "Georgia, I love you, I know you haven't been taught what my love really looks like, but I love you even when you."
God loves you enough to give you His oxygen to breathe, lungs that function, a body that functions better than it should, considering all that has been done to it, and a heart that turns an electrical impulse into a beat, that pushes the fluid that keeps your body alive around in an intricate, unimitatably complex plumbing system. God allow us to be hurt so that He can redeem and heal us, so we can help others receive His healing. Otherwise no one would ever get healed, and learn to appreciate the healer, because no one can lead anyone else where they have never been. That includes counselors and pastors.
God made you to have a unique, intimate relationship with Him, that no one else can mediate. Yes, others can coach, or lead you in some areas of life, but Christ is the only mentor who has already died so that you can truly live. He doesn't ask you to die for Him, like many other gods do, and many others say He does. He died so that you would not have to suffer sorrows and wounds to your soul, forever. He wants to take your sorrows and soul wounds from you, but that means you have to grieve, not clutch onto, what is hurting you. No one has represented Christ well to you, even if some have come close. That is why He is the only One who can heal the wounds of our hearts, allowing our tears to irrigate the wounds so He can suture them shut and help them heal.
Take some time. Ask God to make Himself real, and meaningful, in your life. If He isn't real, you don't lose anything. If He is, which I can testify to, you gain more than you can ever imagine. The only way to lose is to assume someone who equates you to your behaviors and maintains authority in your life through deceit and manipulation cares more about you, and is more honest, than the One who made you, and someone who loves you in spite of everything you have ever done.

The way you can keep him coming back (occasionally) is to let him know you'll put up with all the shady ways and not ask questions. You say you're willing to deal with it, but you can't really want that kind of life. If you talk to him he won't care? That says a lot right there. The one shot you have it seems is to stay away entirely and tell him why before you go. You can't really lose him because you don't really have him. I think that's the reality.

its simple an invitation over a dinner table,remember always take ur serious talks to a nice and quite place where the music can sooth you down and the people around you won't let you to fly off the handle and go off on each other,then tell him kindly his mistakes and make sure you won't humiliate him by making him excuses,but the important thing is making him realize,sometimes subconsciously doing it even,try not to give him advices cause he might not like it,try to talk him out his misdeeds if I may say ,by taking the high road,give him more opportunity to make amends and to recuperate.

Honestly, it sounds like you are anything but happy. I can relate though. I have been on and off with this special guy for about 4 years. But he is bipolar and unfortunately refuses to get help. Anyway, sounds like you both may not be secure in yourselves. I say take a week or 2 to totally focus on you and the things you love to do. hang out w friends, take a class, write in a journal. Do things that will distract but also help you grow. In most cases when the girl pulls away and plays coy, the boy ends up missing her calls or being around. But if he does contact you, act like you are not interested. Guys love girls that are independent! I found out the hard way ha! g/l!

He doesn't even care about you sweetie why on earth would you even think about dating him or even wanting to see him for that matter. I don't think there would be a way to get him to come back maybe sex if its good but that's about it.

Well, yeah, you put up with peoples crap, but if its to the point where you're being taken for granted for and lied to, because he's lying to you about coming over. Then no matter how much you like him and how happy he makes you; you gotta pull back and ask yourself if he's someone you'd really wanna waste your time on.

And how do you not know if he cares or not if you haven't asked?