Waiting is hell. I am so in love with someone that I would give up my immortal soul to save hers. Everyone thinks we are together, even her parents and my parents, and we both have acknowledged this to each other. She currently has a boyfriend though who she seems to be in love with. It's mainly annoying because I was going to ask her out after she broke up with her ex, but so as not to be rebound, I waited too long (less than a week) and she had found someone else.
Now I'm sure that once she breaks up with this guy she will want to go out with me and I will ask her right away. But until then the pain is unbearable. Also I have a fear that if she doesn't break up by the end of senior year, I might as well go kill myself. Assuming she will break up, I should have nothing to worry about because I am sure we will be together eventually. But currently she is so all over this guy she practically just met and shares a mainly virtual relationship with (he lives in a bordering state and they see each other about once a month).
People have told me that he is just rebound, but whether or not he started that way, he definitely isn't anymore. People have told me that they won't last very long, but they're certainly going to last a lot longer than I was told. I am still her best friend and she feels comfortable around me and knows I wouldn't make a move on her. But the self-control involved on my part of not simply blurting out my feelings in almost too much to handle.
So ultimately, I ask of you: how would you deal with the waiting? You may suggest I don't hang out with her for a while, and she is going to camp so that will happen. But nothing I do will make me stop thinking of her. And what if school starts and she is still with this guy? I will be with her in school ten hours a day. It dealt with it when she first started going out with him, but its getting worse every day and I will be counting down the days like the days to my execution.
We will be together once she breaks up, of that I am sure. So if you could just assure me that she will break up before senior year is over, and then give me tips on how to numb the inhumane torture that is waiting, it would be much appreciated.
Ironically, if life is such a misery, and heaven is something we must wait for, why do I have no problem waiting to die and go to heaven? The wait is much longer, and while we can't fathom the magnitude of the reward, heaven must be better than anything in this world or what would be the point? Yet I feel much greater pain waiting for something physical, even though I know it will come to me sooner.
Incidentally, her parents strongly disapprove the person who is her boyfriend, whether or not they know he is her boyfriend and that they have made out and are this close to sex. But I don't think her parents opinion will make her break up any sooner. I think she actually prefers a long-distance boyfriend of whom her entire religion disapproves. What could break them up?
I say since ur a guy you could tell her how you feel and if she does correspond to you she'll break up with her current boyfriend.Its all you tell her how you really feel you don't have anything to lose so you won't be left with the what could have happen thought in ur head.
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