guys, do you have any ideas for things I could do for my boyfriend that would make him really happy. something I could do to surprise him or something. he's been stressed lately and I want to cheer him up thanks
Congrats! Why do I say that, because I went through allot of stress too but my ex (got into arguments because she didn't care which made me angry) didn't want to hear about it. I don't know what your guy is stressed about so I can't be specific. All I can say is that you need to be there for him. One of the problems is that guys usually hold allot of emotions in so they won't look weak (its a self image thing that is natural). When a guy gets stressed or depressed to where he starts showing it for more than one day with out getting better it will mean that all of those held emotions and what not will come out. It's like a dam breaking. Again I don't know what type of stress but this would be the worst case scenario. Over all when I get down or stressed I want someone to help me forget about it. I might want to stew over it but too much is not a good thing. If he is getting angry or anxious try to go out and do something peaceful and just the two of you. So really going out to the bar or clubbing isn't a good idea. You want to help him relieve the stress and calm him down so he can regain his composure. Go to a park or something, even a theme park is going to be ok. Talk to him and make sure he is OK. You can help him find solutions to his problems but don't over do it and get frustrated. Sometimes he just needs someone to complain to.
Oh and if he says or does something that normally he wouldn't have done in the past (ie blow up at you or just walk away from you if he gets frustrated) don't take it personally. He is probably dealing with allot of junk and just needs time to himself. Think of a guy PMSing. So don't take it personally unless it goes on for a long time. So yah back to your question just try to be there for him and see if you can keep his mind off of whatever is stressing him.
Thanks, that's good advice. I try to get him to talk about it.. and usually he says " nah I don't want to nag and bore you with my problems" but I say "well I'm your girlfriend and I'm here for you. and I don't want you to be upset." and usually he ends up talking to me about it. I try to give him massages too to help with the stress too - 4 months ago
I don't know for what reason he is stressed , if its work give him space and when he wants to see you try to do some interested activities , whatever he likes , for example catch a movie ( action movie for men) , take him for a walk somewhere where nature is beautiful and he can focus on the beauty of life , getting him material things won't take the stress go away make yourself available to talk hang out or just maybe cuddle and hug whatever he needs just don't be to clingy men hate this.
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