Friends with Benefits Etiquette

Well let me say this.

if you are man enough to look for this type of arrangement, then you should be ready to deal with whatever comes your way within the relationship.

I wouldn't look to much into things. Just go with the flow. Once you start looking into things too much that's when things go down hill. GO WITH THE FLOW.

And so what if she doesn't want to have sex that weekend. IT HER RIGHT! If you have an arrangement then I'm sure you both have had sex before. So what's the big deal with this weekend? Move on.your looking into it too much.

you answer your second question.Your NOT married. So when one is not married your always looking for someone. WHO EVER YOU ARE>>>>thats the whole point of one being single and then being in a relationship. YOU CAN ALWAYS meet new friends,anywhere you go. Now if they become something more down the road then.whos to say? Not you. Not her.


HAVE FUN WITH THE REALTIONSHIP AND GO WITH THE FLOW!

You should have to be asking us. You should know the answer to this already.

relax and have fun. You only live once!

mmm yea you could take her on the trip. but do you really want to spend so much money on a girl that your hardly really dating? I mean she can be seeing other men also. in my option if she accepts she just probably think your something to run over and she can get anything she wants from you. (which she probably could). but don't expect sex. the only way I could say that you can think about it is if you guys have had sex before if you haven't then. maybe a romantic night of dinner, a walk on tha beach and some drinks would get her in tha mood. and for meeting people on the trip. if she does that's very rude of her that time is for you and her. & if you do that's rude of you because you don't know what feeling she has for you that you don't know about. (remember females have very jelous ways) hope I helped

Yes for the trip. And yes for the new partners, as long as you both talk about it first and it's okay.

If you asked her to go on this trip, just the two of you, then it should be ONLY you and her. About the sex thing. don't really expect it. I mean if you guys have had sex before than maybe expect it, but don't count on it one-hundred percent. If you guys have a romantic night, dinner, movie, back to the hotel then maybe.

Well, that's something thing I would discuss with her. If I was in your sort of arrangement, I personally would want and expect sex as well. I personally wouldn't want to go out looking for any other companions. I personally like being able to have sex with one partner but not have a commitment. I would say just talk to her and clarify things

First of all, who knew folks over 45 were doing so much f***ing? Good for both of you. That being said, honestly, what woman would ever turn down a free trip to a resort? If she knew ahead of time that you would be sharing a room (and, hence, a bed), I would share your incredulity at there being no sex, whatsoever. The problem (IMHO) lies in that you are both (probably) defining the benefits inherent in "friends with benefits" differently. essentially exchanging tangibles for intangibles, and you're concerned because there is no way to ensure that the value of what is being traded is equitable?

That being said, sex is always a negotiation, and obviously this aspect contributes to our enjoyment of the process (and enhanced sense of self-esteem post coitus). Unfortunately, the rituals involved usually do contain some element of discomfort or disappointment for at least one of the participants during any given instance. The main thing as a man, however, is that it ALWAYS makes you look weak to whine about sex you didn't get. Is it really that big of a deal, to the extent you're going to humiliate yourself? Are you expecting us to feel sympathy for you upon your relating the story of your failure? Just move on, and learn from this experience so as not to repeat the same negative circumstances. Maybe try to incorporate others into the experience ahead of time (and by "others", I mean additional chicks), just so that everyone involved knows that the guy paying is expecting some of his sexual fantasies to be fulfilled.

If you've already discussed the morality of being friends with benefits, it couldn't hurt to ask her up-front about what you two could expect to do on the trip. A woman is almost never under an obligation to perform that kind of activity (even in a serious relationship), so it would be unfair to assume that she should be required to do something.

Regarding your second question, yes, it should be okay to find other potential partners on the trip, or whenever you want. The two of you are not dating, and as such, you should not have deep emotional attachments to each other. Of course, this is not always the case, and if it turns out that one of you is attached after all, things will get ugly quickly. That's the huge, major downside of FWBs. Otherwise, you should be all set.