I grew up with this girl who was my best friend all the way through school. (finishing each other's sentences and all that.) We use to do everything together. We were never anything more than friends, but I always secretly wanted more; however, I knew that she did not share my feelings. These days we live in different cities but I still love her very much and we talk on the phone sometimes all through the night. I have been dating this other girl for over 3 years now and I love her too, but I just don't feel the connection like I do with my childhood friend. At night I dream about her. I've had feelings for her for 15 years, sometimes strong and sometimes not as much, but I've always had a crush on her. Whenever I drive over just to visit her for a few hoursI end up staying for a few days because there is just so much to talk about and we have so much fun. I've never really told her openly how I feel because I'm afraid of it messing up our friendship. I'd rather just be friends than to not have her in my life at all. I've also never told the girl who I'm currently dating. I just can't seem to get over this one person. What should I do about her and what should I do about the wonderful girl I'm currently with. I bought a wedding ring, but I don't feel right poping the question when I still have feelings for my childhood friend.
The problem I see is if you ask this crush about this, it will somehow get back to your current partner. Call it Murphy's Law. So the question becomes do you sack your current relationship and take a shot of asking this crush to be with you?
Only you can answer this. You know both these girls really well, and you know if any feelings are being reciprocated. But to actually move things forward will probably mean you need to drop one or the other.
If you go for the crush, that's fine, hopefully it does work out. There is always the chance she has been hiding her feelings. In which case, it could really work out. This will mean the demise to your current girl, which she we will be left broken, no doubt about it.
If you continue with your current girl, then you will be married and hopefully will have a great relationship and partner forever. In this case, you will have to cease communicating with your crush, because we all know that you will be toying with trouble if you are married and you keep her in your life.
One day, she might have a very tough go of it regarding a guy, and feel like it is all slipping away, and you will respond to her desperation, and as one thing leads, you'll end up doing something you regret.
So this isn't just about your crush bro, this is about what your future is going to hold. You have to pick one or the other, literally. As it stands, I'm sure your girl accepts that this old friend is still in your life, but understand she's a women too, and she knows that even the best people can have weak moments. Even so, she'll never forgive you if the two of you have that weak moment together. And like I said, you are playing with fire if you think keeping them both around is going to work.
dude,well look ,i don't think you can mess up a 15 year old friendship by expressing ur interest in her,i you take the right approach she might just say no but no thanks we ar just friends,but don't tell her you liked her eversince like what years ago?just tell her now that we are grown up I see myself attracted to you,ask her for a date,this looks totally rational to me.
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