When does lovesick become sick?

Dearheart, I have had this happen and I'm sorry. I didn't get closure on a 2 1/2 year relationship. The guy LITERALLY just drove off and I never spoke to him again. Though I tried to speak to him he wouldn't answer his phone or he would just be rude and hang up on me. He was sadly a coward who couldn't face up to his mistakes and didn't want a closure talk because it would bring light to his lying, cheating ways. It took me 7 months to truly get past it - and I can't even say that I even loved him at the end of our time together. My friends told me after I got better that I didn't even sound like myself during that time - and I know I didn't. I was bitter, depressed, short and snappy, and judgmental about everything - I was just hurt to the core and angry.

If you really loved this guy, then it may take longer. Just know that YOU WILL GET BETTER. I know, I know, I know the obsession, anger, hurt, regret, hope, revenge - everything that runs through your mind vexing you on this. You will slowly recover though. I had to make my own closure on that relationship with him - I didn't even know people where so crazy and did that kindof stuff like that before him. I'm not even sure how I did it - so I can't tell you how. But really I think it is just a personal closure based on who you are and what happened.

I hope that you have some good girlfriends that will help you out and listen to you during this time. Go out with you and keep you busy shopping, going to the movies and dinner (even if you don't want to at first - GO!) I had a girlfriend even offer to go egg this jerk of mine's house - we didn't though. :-). When you know that you still have love from your friends and family you'll soon evolve into your own closure somehow and you'll just realize one day that you got there.

Best of luck to you to get there soon! You obviously have a big heart that is hearting. It will love again someday soon. You will fully recover from your lovesickness.