Should I stay friends with him?

I've got the same situation right now sort of. My ex and I had been together for almost 6 years and we've been broken up for like 3 months, maybe more. We're both over the break up (quick I know, but we both agreed the break up should've happened a long time ago) and recently started talking again and decided to stay friends. I always knew I wanted to stay friends with him because we were very good friends throughout our relationship, I just needed some cooling off time. He did tell me that even though we're friends now, it won't last forever because it would be weird once he's in a new relationship, and he said it would be weird too if I was in a new relationship too. Well, he said it would be weird for the other people involved, but I told him they'd have to live with it because I wouldn't just stop being his friend completely. He agreed, but I think we both know that we wouldn't be as close of friends once new people come into our lives.

Personally, I don't think it should matter if you two are just friends and know that there won't be any reconciliation as a couple, and if both of you really value the friendship then why not stay close friends? If he's not being the type of friend you want him to be you should talk to him to see what's going on? Is he seeing someone? Because I could see how that could make him want to talk to you less. How would you feel if you were his new love interest and he was always talking to his ex? If that's not it, then maybe he doesn't want the same type of friendship you want. But is it really fair to give a friendship an ultimatum? Friendships are supposed to be mutual and good for both people involved. If you're really as close as you say, then it should be no problem, but maybe he doesn't see you as his best friend?

I went through that too, and in the end I realized I was just trying to reach out for him because I knew he didn't have that many close friends, both of us are busy but even be4 we'd make time to talk. So if he really valued right now he'd make an effort and until he shows he's ready to be friends with you just move on, and right now I still miss our friendship at times but I'm really happy. I know that I deserve better than that. And that's what I expect, if I'm gonna treat people that way I expect them to treat me the same. You deserve the same =). If he knows how special you are he'll realize you're done doing all the work and come back for you and if not then he's too stupid to realize what a good friend you are.

Let me just tell you. I JUST went threw this. As hard as it seems the best thing for you is to not be friends with him. At least right now. If he isn't making the effort to be close with you then he doesn't deserve your time. Honestly I am so much happier now that I don't talk to him and I'm not all mad at him or whatever. It has just taught me to hold myself to a high standard and in the end he's the one that missed out. So try and keep a good attitude and that mindset. You got it girl!