My finance and boyfriend of 2 years has done a lot of messed up stuff to me in the past he has cheated and lied and so on. when I say past I mean the first six months we were together. Since then our relationship has improved dramatically. Then we were on on a whole different level. I forgave him because we have been friends for 5 years and we are both young and stupid, not to mention I love him with all of me. Well our relationship was doing great I finally had trust for him, we got so close then he messed up and texted another chick that his friend introduced him for wanting to get with her but she turned him down.
I met her and did not like her she was a few years younger and a skank yet she told me about this about 3 weeks after it happened, two days after we found out we were expecting our first child..I flipped out but forgave him after two weeks that was 8 months ago. Now my man is on probation, he has violated 3 times already, not recently however once more and he's gone for 3 years. We vowed before I got pregnant not to do drugs anymore that it was just too much trouble for both of us and we kept our promise. He drinks a little but that's never been an issue. The drugs however is what caused his behavior the first 7 months so removing them got rid of issues. Well 2 1/2 months ago the same friend who brought the skank around who is also 3 years younger and doesn't at all respect the fact that my man has a family now and has a different life with different circumstances loves to party, chase girls and do drugs. He also brags about it thinking he is cool.
Well his mouth got him when I heard him say my man did xanax bars with him and they were a HUGE contribution to the first 7 months of hell. I flipped out and confronted my man he didn't think it was such a big deal until it dawned on him when I threatened to leave. He apologized and I forgave him once again more trust lost. Now on thanksgiving is when he proposed to me I accepted, we made an agreement whenever we decided to commit in that way we would tell each other anything. We had kept to ourselves thus far regardless of what it was, so we could start fresh and honest.
However nothing was said at the proposal. Then 3 days later that same friend of his bragged to the wrong people, even showed pictures of just one month ago my man rolling on extacy with him! Now there were no females in the pictures yet he really messed up. I haven't told him that I know about it yet or confronted him, I just stopped picking up the phone that day and haven't spoken to or seen him in one week. From talking all throughout everyday and spending every weekend together. He called a few times during the week and when the weekend came around called several cause I usually spend those at his house.. I just didn't answer the phone . I don't know how to confront him cause I know even if he admits it, there is still so much hurt there, like what else could he be lying about? He risked so much and lied so much WHAT NOW??
From what I understand, he will not learn. Even though I believe he cares about you, obviously it's not enough to put you and your child to be born, over drugs. You forgiving him everytime does not help either. Why stop if he knows you will always accept his so called "apology". Since you are pregnant, I can't say you should leave him. But you need to make him realize that, if he doesn't you really will. And if that time comes, you need to believe that you will leave him. If you do believe, he will too. Otherwise it will keep going on and things will get much worse when you have a kid that you will regret you didn't leave him long time ago. Just my 2 cents.
I actually have this similar problem if that helps you. Not to the same degree of circumstances but I to feel like he's done so much to me that I don't even know how to forgive him. But I just wanted to say if you need someone to talk to, I totally get it.
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