Ok, so I have been friends with someone for about 2 years and we are friends with benefits. During this time frame, a lot of different things have happened on both sides. About two months ago, I decided to throw things out on the table about my feelings. He came back and told me he didn't want to hurt me and he is sorry. He never came back and said he didn't feel the same way, but I decided it was time to just walk away. So I more or less said good bye and walked away.
At a party three weeks later, he chased me, which is something he has never done. He danced with me and talked in front of all of our friends and it was something that never has happened before. Since then, we have talked a lot and spent some time together. About two weeks ago, we were making out and he left marks all over me, which was kinda weird. He has never done that before.
Then the next week, he invited me over and wouldn't let me leave for 5 hours. We just laid in bed and talked for hours. In which time, he asked me if I had ever been with his friend. I told him about 6 months ago. He then asked me if I still wanted his friend and I said no. During the 2 years, he had a crush on one of our friends and I asked if he was still interested in her. He said no, he was over that. We have had a few disagreements about her. When we were talking, I asked a question and he told me that he did like her a one point, but it wasn't meant to be. He isn't stuck on her and he can't understand why I still think he is. He gets jealous when other guys text, even friends. What do I do with this? I already expressed myself and was never really told anything. Do I try again or just leave it alone to see what happens. Thanks for your input!!!
No I don't think you should leave it alone. He either wants his cake and wants to eat it too or maybe the thought of leaving you or not having you woke him up. You need to tell him that he either needs to decide he wants to be with you or he can't have you. And you can't let him into your pants anytime he wants. Friends with benefits are great if it works out but when feelings cross over than that is when you get hurt. Stand by what you believe girl!
I think he definitely has feelings for you that go beyond just friends with benefits. Sounds as if he is not sure on how to express his feelings and maybe you should let things ride for a little longer... Maybe another couple weeks and just see if things stay the same or even get more involved. Then if they do talk to him tell him how you feel and just straight out ask him what he wants out of all of this yet make sure it does not sound as if your putting pressure on him for any huge commitment just something to let you know where you stand with him good luck with this!
(Age:36 to 45)
When: 11 months ago
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