I am so confused. My ex-husband now boyfriend is living 6 hours away right now and we're planning on moving in together again in a couple of months to work on our relationship and raise our child together. We've been together for about 3 years total and our relationship wasn't the greatest from day one, but we managed to stay together. He said he loves me but I don't believe it sometimes because I feel he lies too much about everything. Of course he denies it.
To make the long story short, since he's been away(for work), we've been having issues as to whether the relationship will make it after all with us not physically together. We argue all the time about everything. I don't trust him because of past issues with him. He said he's been honest and wants to work on things but I found out a couple of months ago that he called some girl he used to date before me to just talk because he's bored, because we were having problems, because we were "broken up", because ..., he gave every excuse in the book. He said it's all just conversation because she's "nice". And after I found out and we fought and made up, he promised to stop all contacts with her. I don't believe that because I am not there and I won't really know except for his words which doesn't mean anything because he lied before. How do I really know that he stopped all contact with her and that there wasn't anything more than just conversations. FYI-- he dated her casually before he met me and when we became exclusive he stopped seeing her, but there were issues until we moved in together and started our lives that she disappeared. Now, she's back but is she gone again like he said? One comforting thing for me is that if he really wanted to be with her, he would have pursued it before me but he didn't because he said he doesn't see her in that way. But I don't believe that she is just a friend. I believe she still wants to be with him but he denies it. I think he thinks of her as just a convenience for friendship or whatever especially if when he's single. But he's not and he promised to stop all contacts with her. What should I do, believe him, break it off with him? Please help! :(
Look if you have that gut feeling go with it. You shouldn't be worried whether he is going to be cheating on you or not ,there should be trust between you guys. They say once a cheater always a cheater not necessarily true. If a man is open to what he did wrong and doesn't lie to you then possibly he won't do it again. Sometimes when guys get into arguments with their loved one they turn to someone else for advice, perhaps to calm down. Be more at ease. If he is always making excuses and not being open with you, then of course there is not trust. I think you should take a breather on this one. Good Luck!!
First off if you don't trust him that is a HUGE issue. You need to figure that out. If he has cheated before and what you said about his past I personally never would have let him back in. But I know how hard it is to let go. So this is hard to answer but my advise you need to trust in order to have a relationship, and if he has cheated there is no trust. No trust=No relationship
I think my boyfriend is cheating on me again. he's been acting weird & I know he lies to me about most things & talking to his ex who he cheated on me...
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Describe your ideal first date; Where do you go? What do you wear? How does the date end?
My first date, I'd want to do something fun and active. Not the whole 'dinner and a movie' thing. I would probably want to go backpacking or snowboarding... maybe with a group of people. Just so there's no awkward moments, and I just like to be out there doing something instead of just watching a movie or something. Know what I mean?
Afterwards..what will your date know about you?
My date would know I'm, fun(ny), adventurous, active, and idk, I guess whatever they wanted to know.
(Age:36 to 45)
When: 8 months ago
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