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Girls: How do I get rid of the feelings I have for my friend with benefits?

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aquafina185 (Age:18 to 24)     When: 10 months ago
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So I have a friend with benefits, he's been around for a while. But I started to get feelings for him, and we both already made it clear that we wouldn't become more. I'm not ready to let go because the sex is pretty good. How do I get rid of these feelings?

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sexwiseman (Age:30 to 35)      When: 10 months ago
From my past experience, if I told a girl all I wanted was a friend with benefits relationship, and then she started to get feelings for me, and then she told me about it, I would tell her that it was best to stop having sex as I wasn't interested in a relationship with her that way. FWB relationships are very hard because one person always gets attached. The only choice you have, as luvthebeach555 mentioned, was to talk to him about it. Maybe you get lucky and he has feelings for you. Otherwise, if he doesn't, best to finish this relationship and move on because you will get more emotionally attached, and if he were to find another girl while you're still having sex with him, then it will be more mental breakdown for you. So best to confront what's happening now.
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LuvTheBeach555
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LuvTheBeach555 (Age:18 to 24)      When: 10 months ago
I know you don't want to hear this but I don't think you can, You can't just turn your feelings on and off like a light switch... You either have to talk to him about it or just back off and save yourself from getting deeper involved.

Sex is sex and I promise you will find good sex again a lot faster than you will heal if you get hurt in this situation.
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imagxinary (Age:25 to 29)      When: 10 months ago
I agree with the LuvTheBeach555. I don't think you can. I'm in the same situation. Its not easy to have them, and they aren't going away as much as Id like. I have told mine, but he hasn't said anything which only makes it worse. But I think, if he can't take you telling him how you feel, then he shouldn't be having sex with you or vice versa. Its a risky situation, either way you lose, or you win...the hard part is getting to the point of either saying anything at all, or keeping quiet. BUT I think if you keep quiet, it will only make things worse in the long run..
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