I recently met this great guy on my birthday at my waitressing job where I work. He was quiet and cute. I was ecstatic when I found a note from him under his bill saying "I would like to get to know you better" and left his number.
I called him and we hit it off. On our third date he asked me to be his girlfriend. His parents came to town and I met them and we went out several times. He invited me to his graduation for special tactics school. He's a really awesome guy except for 1 thing: he had orders to move to another base!
Before he left he asked me "What do you want to do about "us." Knowing that long-distance relationships don't work out, I told him that we would remain great friends. He says that he'll probably come back to the area for training before April and asked if it was okay if he calls me.
He left a week before Christmas. I called him on Christmas day to thank him for the gift-diamond earrings. We talked for a little while and when he hung up he said "talk to you later."
Now it's January 1, 2008 and I miss him like crazy. It's been about a week since I talked to him. He hasn't called or texted to say "happy new year" does this mean he forgot about me already? Should I contact him, or just trust him to call me like he says he will? This is the first guy I've liked in over a year, should I just forget about him? Should I just let him call me instead of me calling "to see how he's doing." AND IF your advice is to call or email him, should I tell him how I feel about him (I like him A LOT)? Or will that be too soon/look needy. HELP ME PLEASE!
Update: Well it's Jan 6 and I didn't call him but I just sent him an e-mail with the pictures from his graduation and asked him how he's doing and blah blah blah. I hope he responds! If he doesn't should I just forget him? His birthday is Jan 9, should I call him.
11 months ago
In response to your update. I think you should wait to hear back from the E-Mail. On his Birthday Call him. If after that you don't get the response from him that your looking for then Yes forget about him and find someone that will make you happy.
Thanks, I think this is the right thing to do! I'm glad I resisted the temptation to call him. Any tips on what to say on his b-day? Will a simple "happy b-day" do, or should I say "I've been thinking about you a lot lately happy b-day", or what? - 11 months ago
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I would start the conversation with just a simple Birthday. If your the flirty type then you could add something like sweetie at the end and see if you are able to strike a conversation with him and take it from there - 11 months ago
I say call him and see how he is doing. I suspect that he is going through the same thing you are. it sounds like he likes you just as much as you like him. He is most likely going though the same rough times that you are and is not sure how to handle it. Call - what's the worst that can happen?
Basically I would have to totally agree with both the girls, you need to call him tell him how you really feel and that you want to make it work IF that's what you really want to do.
I doubt you will be seen as needy or that it will be to soon as he obviously doesn't want to give up on you and is most likely thinking about you more then you can imagine.
Thanks for the comment, but here's the question: if he doesn't want to give up why hasn't he called me. (And it's not because of packing because he's not at his base yet. He went home for the holidays. He's not at his duty station until Jan 20. - 11 months ago
I say call him and tell him how you feel. Like April said a lot is probably going on and if you told him you didn't want a long distance relationship he might be giving you space as well as dealing with the moving in and new local and all. If you do really like him, I would talk to him about the long distance relationship. The only rules on a relationship are the ones you place and so maybe taking baby steps could make it easier on you. But if you like him and he cares about you it is always good to just see where it can go it is possible to have a long distance relationship but if you walk away from it and you like him you will never know what could have or would have happened. Good Luck :)
Just call him and tell him you miss him and want to reconsider having a long distance relationship. It may work out and it may not, but if you like each other it's worth a shot.
I doubt he's forgotten about you... he's probably a little hurt or feeling lonely himself. He may just be overwhelmed with checking into a new duty station too. My husband is military and there's a lot going on when we move... unpacking, setting up lodging, etc.
If you really like him and you guys have a good thing, don't let him get away!
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