Rich girl poor guy?

Dear Kid,

Got any more trick questions? I think you know that love comes with a pricetag to a certain extent. Yes, marriage is about love, compatibility, fun, etc., but at the end of the day it is a financial arrangement, especially when one person has a great deal of personal wealth. Anyone who thinks otherwise is a fool. It's about personal economics, plain and simple.

Some good friends of mine (including my mom) got married purely for love. When the divorce happened, those hard-working women who made decent livings for themselves and their man, were left with almost nothing. I've worked for family law attorney's, and the one thing that many men care more about in this world--many times more than their own children--is their money, retirement, 401K's, cars---the list goes on. So be honest with yourself, if your first book becomes a bestseller, and assuming that you have a good contract with your publisher that would make YOU a lot of that bestseller money, would you get married again without a pre-nup? My guess is that you wouldn't. You've been married before and it didn't work out. So you know the risks to your heart and your wallet. You would have money and your children to protect. Time to get off your pedestal, wait and see what happens with this book and go from there. I'm just saying, what's with the trick questions? Is the 3-book deal the truth? Or are you just testing us women who are worth it?

Wealth is objective. Everyone has their own idea of which number wealth really is. Making money, having the drive and skills to make money, not pissing that money away---those are all good things. So, not being "wealthy" myself, I have investments, savings and I own real estate. None of that is worth much in today's economy, but it's all there just the same.

So let's see, a good heart isn't going to pay the rent, buy you the car you need to go to school or work, or put food on the table. Bad investments are one thing, but laziness is another. My view is that if you are reasonably good looking and broke, then you should stick to women (or men) who are of your social standing. Yeah, I know that sounds awful. But it's a double standard that our society has given us. We all live with it.

Poor guy, poor girl = together

Rich guy, poor good-looking girl = together

Rich buy, poor guy = together

A broke man should bring A LOT of POTENTIAL to the table if he expects to be with a woman who isn't a complete looser. No money, no potential, lazy = alone.

I wouldn't touch him with your d***---as a former rich boyfriend of mine used to say.

I think it's not about "being broke" but how you see yourself as broke. If you are broke and actually are striving to do better, I wouldn't even mind to support you through your difficult time, but you HAVE to really want to and are trying to do better. If you are broke because you really just don't want to work, then that's another story. Or if you are broke, and your self-esteem goes down and constantly feels that you don't worth anything or that the world is just so cruel for you blah blah blah, then I'm not going to want you at all. It's OK to have those feelings, but those individuals will need a therapist instead of a girlfriend. I don't think that every girl aims at finding someone who can provide for her, there are certainly gold-diggers out there, but there are also girls who are actually looking for guys who can understand them and connect with them on an emotional level without financial concern, but your attitude towards your situation is the key.