Friends with benefits help?

As April said, you need to stop doing the friend with benefits thing because the only one that is benefiting is your ex. Lets say you didn't have a bf, and you were doing the Friends With Benefits thing with somebody else---even then, such relationships are hard because one person always ends up getting hurt. In your case you are the one that will end up getting hurt the most because remember---if a guy really loved you, he wouldn't have cheated on you on the first place. Actions speak louder than words, and as much as you would love to believe that he loves you a lot, many would disagree with you. Also, by sleeping with him, as April said, you're not helping your own cause. If you think you can win him only by sex, then you need to really analyze your relationship because as much as sex is an important part of a relationship, there are other equally important factors, like trust and respect, that also need to be present for a healthy emotional relationship to exist. Obviously, these 2 factors don't exist in your boyfriend's world, as much as you would love to believe they do. So yes, gather some respect, and as painful as it is, walk away from this relationship. Good luck!

Girl I mean you can't keep a person that don't want to be kept!!!! I mean if he sleepin wit all these other girls wat if he get sumthin and bring it to u? that's sumthin you gotta live wit for no reason!!!!

I have no idea why he did those things, sweetie. You just need to guard your heart right now. It's not easy letting go of someone you care about, esp. when they're sending you mixed signals. It's not fun. At all. It's hard. It sucks. It's one of the worse feelings in the world.

I just think think he'll show his true colors when you cut him off. Just the fact that he's sleeping with you and another woman at the same time show his current lack of consideration.

When I was 18 I found out my on again off again boyfriend was cheating. It was easy for him since my family moved 5 hours away. He just said he was picking up extra hours. I drove to see him one weekend (I already suspected foul play...) and found him hanging out with his ex- someone he dated before we met. The next day they were moving in together and he wasn't going to tell me. Heh. That was the last time I talked to him until he called me 4 months later. He apologized and said what he did was wrong. He wanted me to take him back. I told him talk was cheap and there was no way I'd be with him again. I lied. He moved to where my family and I were, but I could never look at him the same way since he hurt me so much. We broke up for good 4-5 months later. Anyway, I begged and pleaded with him when I found them together. I knew he loved me and cared about me, but he was going to do whatever he wanted. Nothing I said or did was going to change that. I guess that's what I'm saying to you: I don't know what his intentions are, but nothing you do- like giving him sex or telling him you love him more than anyone else is going to change his behavior.

Stay strong, girlie!

Just stop get him out of your life. Friends with benefits never is friends with benefits it always becomes more ... you're just gonna keep fallin deeper n deeper for him when he's just seeing it as getting his leg over you say you both still love each other if he loved you he would want you all to himself and wouldn't want any other girls sorry hun but you gotta let him go before you get really hurt................xx

I know you're very hurt right now, but sleeping with him will not bring him back to you. If you're handing it out, of course he's going to take it. Don't let yourself be taken advantage of. He knows you still love him and care for him and I just feel like he's using that to his advantage. I really think for your on sanity it's time to stop sleeping with him and take a real break to give your heart a chance to heal.

He can't know what he's missing if you keep on holding onto him and by the time most guys realize what they're missing it's too late.