Ok my ex called me (we haven't seen each other in 6 mo.) and we talked about an hour. We had a super bad break up but we didn't talk about that on the phone. Should I just quit talking to him and ignore his phone calls? He is always sending text messages on holidays (christmas, my birthday, new years, etc) but this is the first time he has actually called me since the breakup.
Update: Last night I ran into him at the club! I was with my friends and he came over to say hey,he was totally watching me the whole night! This is the first time I saw him in like 6 mo I wonder if he's gonna quit callin since he saw me hangin w/another guy.
10 months ago
Sure, why not? Let him know about the other guy (this might hurt him a bit, but if he knows early on then it helps define your relationship and it's the risk of contacting old lovers). Otherwise, be open to the possibility of moving on to a friendship.
Friendship means a balance in which here we don't have one. Sure there's times where it has worked out as I am friends with one of my ex but that wasn't until a year later when we both moved on. - 11 months ago
From my experience and what I've observed, it's always best to leave the relationship without contact. You end up saying "we'll just be friends" but chances are, someone will start to develop feelings and someone will get hurt again.
I'd say after a year maybe you could start chatting again but it seems too soon.
Yea, I can tell he still has feelings 4 me, but I like this other guy now. But this is an important guy to me and I don't want to hurt his feelings (we dated for 2 years and knew each other for 3 years) - 11 months ago
Answerer
"She's my heroin." That's how you have to see it. Especially now that you've revealed he still has feelings and you are obviously over him. It's easier for him to hate you for no contact then like you for giving him his dosage. - 11 months ago
This sort of thing happened to me where me and my ex started talking again. I tried to see if things would go back to the same like before but, girl, 9 times out of 10 you wait for nothing. He would say and do everything that sounded good to me so we could have sex again. When he got that, that's as far as he wanted our relationship to go. Basically, girl, a lot of ex's come back to get an easy lay, free sex because they know that we are still emotionally attach to them.
Keyword:sex, in most cases, that's why you want to see why your ex is really coming by not giving into sex so quickly. Make him wait for that and if he is still around, he's for real about getting back with you. If he's quick to go cause you not giving it up to him, then he just wanted sex. Think of it this way: He is your ex for a reason. This reality should give you more of reason that the chances of him calling you again a after so long is only for sex. He will say it's not just sex an that he wants to just be friends or try again but really that's deceiving you to get that booty. But like I said give him a chance but don't get your hopes all high like I did. I learned my lesson to next time make them wait for a while until your convince that he really wants you back.
I think if the conversation was casual and friendly there was no harm done. I always enjoy knowing what ex's have been up to- just out of my own curiosity. I don't think I'd go out of my way to call him and attempt to maintain a friendship.
If anything it's nice the first awkward after breakup conversation is over... in case you bump into each other you don't have to worry about it being weird.
(Age:18 to 24)
When: 11 months ago
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