How do I find out if he has the capacity to cheat on me?

your attitude is really toxic.
You should trust people until they prove they are not trustworthy, not the other way around.

If he's cheated on other women before, don't act surprised.

You have to trust him. It helps if you set up skype and talk with him frequently. If he feels you're ignoring him or don't care, he might seek out the affection he's missing.

You don't find out, you trust him. That's how this whole love and relationship thing works, you trust each other.

if a guy wanna cheat on you he can do that even if he's with you, try to trust him.

yeah true guys are dogs sometimes, but there are some that are'nt.
trust is a huge factor in a relationship, if you don't trust him, why should he trust you in the same sence? not being nasty, but why are'nt you willing to trust him, if he's as good a guy as you say he is he won't cheat on you.
if you'r telling yourself he's a good guy, but he's really not, that's your problem not his.
if you love the guy trust him.
i will be heading off to the city soon to look for work, away from my GF, but she trusts me, and that's a huge part in a relationship.

YOU NEED TO TRUST HIM!

And what if you get into a car and it ends up crashing? You can constantly toss around these "what-ifs" but until you put yourself out there you're not gonna know. If you feel like this guy is worth it try to put yourself outside your comfort zone and develop more trust.

My girlfriend was very similar to you and now we're perfect. Everything will work out if there's trust in a relationship

A woman's intuition is never wrong. Your strong feelings suggest he has already cheated on you. Guess what? He has! Women have a sense of smell 1,000 times stronger than a males. Your thoughts are being triggered by pheremones from a woman he has been with. There's no question about it. If you'd like to do a test, relax and calm yourself down. Take ahold of an item of clothing of his where a high concentration of pheremones is likely to exist. If he's had sex with her that would be his boxers or underwear.Take your resting heartbeat and make note of it. Then hold the garment up tightly against your face and breathe deeply in through your nose. Do this a few times making sure to smell the inside of the garment that was in contact with his genitals. Now take your heartbeat again. Has it risen? If it has then your man has had sex, if not with you, then with someone else. Repeat this a few times at different occasions just to be sure. Then confront the cheating bastard with the facts. I'm sure he'll be speachless. Good luck!

I would not cheat for no reason and just for the spur of the moment. I do not like the idea of a one night stand; it is repulsive. So there are men out there who are completely trustworthy, but there are very few.

Ask him "can I trust you?"

A man will not cheat on someone for no reason. If you are treating him well and giving him what he needs everything should be fine and you have nothing to worry about.

There is a reason why people cheat, and it's because there is something unfufilling about their current relationship. If you have a great relationship he won't want to mess that up. But you really need to get over these trust issues because if you keep treating him like you expect him to cheat on you he is eventually going to think 'well she thinks I am, so I might as well'.

Talk to him, see if he is satisfied in your relationship and if there anything more he needs from you. If you give him everything he needs, he won't stray. He won't 'bite the hands that feeds him' so to speak.

I know where your coming from on the trust thing..I have realized that you can bring things from past relationships into another..it isn't fair to that person.You should trust him till he gives you a reason not to.For instince I was in a long term relationship engaged and pregnat and he cheated and was for a while before I found out and only cause she was pregnant also.I didn't trust men at all for a while after..then I found a good guy and messed it up cause of my trust issues..he said he really cared for me but couldn't get over the fact I thought of him as everyother guy that f*cked me over.Trust is big in relationships and you have to learn to trust if you are gonna have one or they won't work sweetie

if you think you are going to doubt him in anyway than yes you do have trust issues and that is a key in a relationship, but you have to give him the benefit of the doubt. If he is not doing anything wrong so far than you should not read much into it. if you love him then you got to let him do what he has to do. there will be times like this in a relationship where you won't be able to be with him all the time and if he is the good guy that you claim him to be then he won't do you wrong. He has to have a motive to cheat and those are if he is bored of something in the relationship or he is not satified with current status of the relationship and needs to be away, but he doesn't seem to be that guy so trust him.

Everyone has the capacity to cheat - try to trust him until he SHOWS you the traits of a cheater.

i know the feeling. but if you want my honest opinion here it is: if you can't trust ur guy not to cheat on you when your not there, you should NOT be dating him. also, if you have no reason to suspect this other than that other women get hurt, what you need to be working on is yourself. If you worry so much about a guy cheating on you, I hate to say it, but he will. you have to be comfortable with yourself. there will always be someone a little more pretty, talented, or WHATEVER than any given girl. so what it all comes down to is that you are happy with yourself and trust that you are good enough and don't have to worry about him cheating. I'm going to comment this with some really important and awesome books you should read in a min, just want to look up the authors sicne I forgot their names.

I understand how you feel on this. I know, seeing other guys hurt their girls by cheating on them is so painful and it's something none of us girls want to go through. But this is how I see it. I have a lot of guy friends who trust me and are always there to answer any of my guy-related questions. I asked then this question, and this what they told me: One reason they would cheat on their girl is if their girl isn't giving them what they want, they might tend to look for it somewhere else. And it can be everything. If a girl is always arguing and being bitchy, they'll look for one who isn't. If she isn't sweet, they'll look for one who is. If she's not satisfying him sexually in any way, then yes, they will most certainly find one who will. It's not much if the other girl is hot, it's mostly if their girl is givng it to them or not. And if your not, well then yes, there's a possiblilty you can be cheated on. Unfortunately, this is very sad for us girls as there are many girls who want to remain virgins until marriage, but the sad truth is that not many guys will wait for you, no matter how much they might care for you. In this century, sex has a lot to do with how your relationship will work. if your lucky enought to find a guy who will respect you and your decisions, then you are in luck and means you have found a good guy who is worth your time. But if your not that lucky and the guy isn't cool with the fact that you want to wait, then that's a problem. Bottom line is, those kind of guys are worthless.

Now, you don't specify on how your relationship is currently going, or if you guys are sexually active. Whether you are or not, this is how much I know on why guys cheat. Hopefully this helps and update us on how your relationship with this guy is going.

Wish you all the best. :)

I think everyone has the ability to cheat if given the right circumstances. Maybe your boyfriend is thinking of the same thing about you too. Guys usually will not cheat when they are in a happy relationship. If he wants to cheat when he is abroad, you are right, there is not a way you will know about it if he wants to keep it a secret. Instead, you should start picking up a hobby or something, be more independent. Stop focusing all your energy on your boyfriend, he is not the center of the universe. FYI: The more you smother a guy, the more he will pull away from you.