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Mika-Confused (Age:18 to 24) When: 10 months ago

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I've been seeing this guy for about 7 months. However he goes to school out of state. In the beginning of the relationship we would talk almost everyday we were doing long distance. Things were moving too quickly like he gave me his account number even though I'm not allowed to take out money.

But things started to change and I worried that he was seeing other girls, from what I saw on his facebook/myspace profiles I will ask him about it but he will just say that they had nothing to do with us and that we was still together. I ignored it but recently I asked him to update me on our relationship, and he tells me he can't do the relationship thing right now and to wait till summer.

So I asked why he couldn't do it but he doesn't respond. We decided to be friends with benefits for now. So I asked if that meant I could see others and he said I couldn't so I told him it made no sense and he was being selfish. He finally agrees and tells me you can do whatever you want until he comes around.

But he still calls me baby,is that allowed in a friends with benefits relationship? we still do the same things we used to do before like going out, dining. but he keep telling me not to play him but how am I playing him if we ain't together? I really like him a lot and the friends with benefits is hard for me. Should I wait till summer or should I let him go even though I still want to be friends with him.

Recently he wanted us to get tattoos together and asked me if I wanted an engagement ring? I ignored it. I love the things he do like kisses my hand out of the blue, how he looks at me, how he embraces me so tightly is something I've never felt before and he always takes me to the same place where we park and talk he asks me if I remember the last time because it's suppose to be our spot.I love how he always ask for my opinion on everything and tells me all of his plans.

Also we are an interracial couple he's black and I'm mexican. Sometimes I feel like it makes it so much harder on our relationship because people stare and black women aren't so approving. I could care less but sometimes I feel like it gets to him. but I love when we're together it's just us and nobody else matters. His favorite movie is A Bronx Tale and he said it reminds him of us.I've never watched it so I have no idea what he's talking about. What do you guys think I should do? should I do friends with benefits or move on even though it will hurt me so?

I do have so much love for him.However he's not very open he doesn't talk about his feelings much.People say that you choose to be friends with benefits because the sex is good. but to me we don't just have sex it's more like making love we even put on music to set the mood.Sometimes we don't even have sex we just spend time together.He says we're a team.but sometimes I feel like I do more than him.I don't know what love is so I just feel like i'm in love with our friendship.Am I being played? or am I about to get hurt?


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candeeroo82 (Age:25 to 29) When: 10 months ago

Let it go hunney. If he wanted you in his life he would make sure to keep you there. Don't let him string you along until summer. Thats not love. He's playing you.

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Thanks for the feedback!! that's what i've been feeling all along. but I gotta do what I got to do now...i'm focusing on ME now!! thanks again - 10 months ago

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