I've been in a "friends with benefits" kind of relationship that has been happening for almost 3 years now. At first, I thought of my friend as just an easygoing boink buddy, but gradually we've started hanging out, going to concerts, movies, dinner and parties, skiing and such--and of course, the sex keeps getting better and better. It's always been the kind of thing that we do in between more serious relationships with others -- but whenever things don't work out with someone else, we seem to come crawling back to each other for easygoing sex and companionship. We're starting to get to know each other's friends, and now we are even going into business together--and we get along great, with almost no conflict. I never used to think of him as more than my "FWB" but lately, I've been thinking about him a LOT -- and starting to see that he's quite a catch. My question: is it possible to progress from being friends and lovers to being in love? Or if a man has gotten used to not having to work too hard for your attention, will he always take you for granted? What can I do to make him fall in love with me and move this from FWB to something more? Are there examples of other couples who started out as casual sex partners who progressed to deeper feelings for each other?
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orangelady
(Age:25 to 29)
When: More than a year ago
Well it wasn't till I got pregnant that we moved to a relationship but it's been great. I think you should let him know what it is that is running through your head and see how he feels about it. I think it sounds like he'll be okay with it. I don't know so much about going into business together. I run a business and keep our kids and he does concrete but I think that you need to really think about the business together cause no matter how small the business it is very frustrating and lots of work and taxes and forms and people, shipping. It's just not a walk in the park and that much stress plus being together that much will not be good for the two of you. But I would let him know you want more and I'm sure he'll be tickled pink.
I can't think of a better way to start a relationship! Of course, the risk in Friends-With-Benefits is always that one person will fall for the other while the other person is content with the way things are and has no desire to change.
As close as you are, I think you could talk to him about it and see what he says. If he isn't interested, just play it off, don't get too hurt and move on. Sounds like you have a business together so you'll be seeing a lot of each other and it's important not to jeopardize your friendship.
The sooner the better...otherwise your feelings will continue to grow and they'll be harder to control if it doesn't work out!
Describe your ideal first date; Where do you go? What do you wear? How does the date end?
A day at the beach or pool , then a casual place for dinner, then for a walk on the beach to look at the stars. Then the hot tub back at my place. I wear a little summer dress and you wear ripped jeans and a nice shirt. Falling asleep talking and watching a movie.
Afterwards..what will your date know about you?
Anything he wants to. Except what I look like without my clothes on. We'll save that for the second date.
(Age:36 to 45)
When: More than a year ago
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