Girl friend always makes examples of the father of the child good or bad in our conversation

You didn't mention how long you guys have been together, but it does seem she has some unfinished business with her childs father. If you guys have a close relationship and you are friends then she probably just needs to vent some frustration.

now I don't know why she would bring up his finer points when you talk about relationships, sounds like there could possibly be some feelings still there. I would just come out and ask her about it. To know is better then constantly have it on your mind. Just tell her what your feeling and why.

That is a little odd that she brings him up all the time. Even though she is talking to you as a friend. I think you nailed it when you mentioned that she appears to have unresolved matters with her ex. I certainly hope she doesn't say those things "good, bad or indifferent" around the child.

Hate to say it.. It's a package deal. But, ah my famous but. She does not have to compare your relationship to what they had. That is not fair to you. I don't think you ever have unresolved matters when you have a child and you split. I think she needs to be told that by you that your relationship is not their relationship. You are her friend, but some things need to be left unsaid, by her about them. If she respects what you have she should stop. You will get tired of it one day. If she is talking in general about him then I think she just has a past with him, and its all she compare it to.

Hey Guy....if you're talking relationships with her then the past one with her ex is probably the only one that she can use for reference.....don't worry about it. If it really bothers you hearing his name then get her to refer him as something else...like dickhead, or just ex...if she really has him out of her life and cares about your feelings then this should be ok with her.

Of course she has unresolved issues with her ex,... she has a 5yr old mini version of him running around her house.

Dating a someone with a kid from a previous lover comes with baggage. If this isn't something that you want to deal with, then you should probably look for someone else. If she is a girl that you want to spend you life with, then talk to her more about out this makes you feel, and try and find out why she is really doing that. This is something that you two should really talk about since it bothers you, and trust me, if it bothers you now, then it will not get better with time.

Please take this in context too, and I don't know you, her, or your whole situation, but she might actually have feelings for him.

I wish you the best.