I have been dating this guy...we met 25 days ago. He is very sweet and I really like being with him...but I feel like I need some time to myself.
I am a very independent person...I have never been clingy in a relationship...and I have never felt the need to be with the person I am dating ever single day. In the last 11 days we have been together for 10 of those. And considering we have only known each other for 25 days...that seems like a lot to me.
He is great...and I have never been with someone who wants to be with me so much...I thinks it is sweet. Part of me feels like things are moving a little fast...but then again I like being with him most of the time.
Am I overreacting? He came over last night to watch a movie...we already have plans together for Wednesday night...and he wants to get together tonight. I would really love to just get off of work and have a night alone. But I don't want him to get the wrong idea if I tell him I don't want to do anything tonight.
Guy's how would you feel if your new girlfriend told you she needed some time to herself? What should I do?
FYI: we haven't slept together yet...so it has nothing to do with sex.
You've been seeing each other almost every day for over a week, so one day off shouldn't be a big deal. Everyone needs time to recharge sooner or later.
He might be momentarily bummed, because it sounds like he likes you and wants to see you often. But it sounds like he just wants you to be happy, so he needs to know that you'll need days off sometimes.
Two ways of doing it..one, is as suggested by the other responders---tell him that you need time for yourself, etc. However, what I have done when I meet girls that behave like the guy you're dating now, I always bring up the subject in a fun/harmless manner, such as telling the girl---'geez, my friend met this girl that is always calling him, always at his house etc...that would drive me insane...wouldn't that drive you crazy if a guy was after you 24/7?' So from there, the girl expresses her views on the subject, and it also allows me to express mine and give her the hint that I need my own time alone, etc,
As you can see, I'm not telling her she is doing that same behavior, but I'm giving her the general idea of what I like, and what I don't like, and every single time, the girls have gotten the hint! :) The best part is that nobody is hurt cause some females are quite sensitive on this topic!
You can say you feel the relationship is moving too fast and you're not used to it. But remind him and let him know you really like him and you're not going to date or go out with other guys. It's stupid, but guys need to hear that sometimes.
I think you should just tell him! Honesty is so important especially if you want this to go somewhere. If you don't tell him how you're feeling now...how are you going to tell him anything else that's important to you later on? I think he'll appreciate the fact that you're being totally upfront with him, and this you're a stand up girl for expressing your true feelings. You have to understand as well, that this relationship is fairly new, so you shouldn't feel like you have to be around him every single day. A girl needs a little time to herself!!
You are just independent. You can grow tired of the relationship being together all the time. Just explain you need me time and that has to do with Manicures, pedicures and taking care of yourself for a couple of nights a week. He will smother you if he doesn't.
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