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How to get him back when you never really had him?

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grahamcracker (Age:25 to 29) When: 7 months ago

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I have a really weird situation here and I am baffled by it. I have known this guy since we were 13 and we are now 28. He has had girlfriends and I was always there as just a friend. No talk of sex or us being boyfriend/girlfriend just purely friends. About 4 years ago he let me know that he was interested in me and we decided to give it a shot. After a short period of time, I realized that I was not ready for what he wanted and told him, we still remained frnds. I continued to come around and we hung out. We acted the same way. Hugging, kissing, flirting. But still no sex.

in 2006 we got into a fight and did not talk for 4 months. When we got back in touch (early 2007) I told him I still had feelings and wanted to see if we could make it happen. I realized what a mistake I had made b4 and said this. This was his cue to say no.

all last year he seemed like he was pushing me away and then pulling me back at the same time. One day he would not want to see me but he was happy to talk to me. Acted like he did not want to be bothered, but if I brought this up he was mad that I would think this. At times we seemed 2 b getting closer.

i realized that he had a girlfriend in aug of 2007. I saw them together and she was just "someone". We continued to talk. Short calls. He acted like he was doing me a favor by talking to me even though he was "busy". In nov I finally told him I would not be coming around as much or calling him and he got mad at me for "saying goodbye to him. " which made no sense to me if he has a girlfriend and did not want to be bothered with me. Finally I asked him if he had a girlfriend. He tried to joke before he finally said yes he did. I had to ask him several times. He was nonchalant about the whole thing and could not understand why I would be upset. He could not look me in the eyes. I saw him three weeks later and it was like old times. He flirted with me and told me I was being mean to him but did not know how.

he tells me that he cares for me. He can't give me a straight answer about anything. "i don't know" is his answer. He has a picture of her in his office and he thought it was funny that she gave it to him (? ). Does he really think I am that stupid? He got defensive when I said something nice about them. "does she have to be the topic of all of our conversations? " he asks me.

now when he sees me he's open to something sexual (a grope or feel. ) but two months ago he acted like he could not stand me and when he was single and it was offered he acted like he did not want it. He says that he thought I was playing him b4. He seems agitated when he sees me. Tells me I frustrate him but he does not know how. Asked if he was happy, he does not know if he is or not. He brought her up last "you know I have that other situation" she drives long distance to see him and is fairly young. But he continues to date her. I want him for myself. Is he confused or playing me? Why the games when he could tell the truth? Help


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Sugarcoat (Age:18 to 24) When: 7 months ago

Wow, all I can say is I agree, that's really confusing. :(

maybe he is torn between wanting you and his girlfriend? Maybe he wants you both? I don't really know. >>;

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If you r confused think how I must feel. He is lying to 1 of us, or both of us. I think he lies to me, but since we have been frnds so long I wonder why not just tell the truth. What is he getting out of this? Satisfaction that it hurts me? An ego boost? - 7 months ago

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No kidding, it must be hard. I feel for you.
i hope things work out for the best. - 7 months ago

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