Ok I'm just 18 and I've never been big on the hole long term relationships I just haven't met the right guy! And my friends say I'm bitter against guys because I said I don't want a relationship now or when I start college because I just think that its boring I want to go out and have fun and be single for the next few years! I just think that going through college for me is so much easier without a relationship and that I'm just not ready to commit to anyone at this age! One of my friends boyfriend asked her to move in and I said to her id die if a guy asked me to and I never would at this age because I feel there's plenty more time in life for me to move in with a guy and play husband and wife! She said she is going to move in with him and I just said to her that I thought that was kinda boring that she should be having fun when in college but if that's what she wants then I'm happy for her but it definitely would not be my kinda thing! All my friends say my attitudes towards guys is bitter but I've nothing to be bitter for I've never really gotten treated badly or hurt by a guy! So am I weird like they say I am because I don't want a relationship for the next few years?
Don't listen to your friends. You are absolutely right on all counts! Though it's nice to have a boyfriend, it's not essential, and you'll probably have more fun and more time to study than your coupled friends.
I totally agree with your assessment that moving in with each other before marriage makes no sense. Your friend and her boyfriend will have to experience all of the down sides of married life before they're even engaged. Since they have no obligation to stay together, they'll probably grow sick of each other and break up. I've seen this happen many times.
Nothing seems odd to me about that idea. I didn't try to seriously look for a date while in college because I wanted to focus more on my studies, which took a lot of my time. The little free time I had was mostly used to recharge, take some time to myself, and hang out with friends on occasion. There wouldn't have been much time for a serious relationship. I had one short relationship that ended up being a lot of work. I did really badly that semester dealing with some of the added stress caused by the relationship. College is a very busy time. Use your free time to have fun if that's what you want. I would say you might want to do some very light social dating stuff so you can get a better idea of the kind of guy you want so when you are actively seeking a guy you know what type of guy to look for, which will save you a lot of problems and hopefully some heartache.
I think its a good idea. Being casual would have been better for me. 2th semester in college I fell in love I don't regret it we been off and on for close to 5 years. But I am just 24 I been though a lot of hard times. Be single and enjoy life
Nope. You are one smart young lady. You need to go out ans have fun in college and not be tied down. Look at it this way. In 5 or so years when you are getting into your first serious relationship? She will be on her 3rd or 4th. She will be burned out and then she will realize what she lost during her college years. You will be ready for a career and a real long lasting relationship because you will have experienced life. So, you are not weird. You have the right attitude.
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