Girls if you break up with your boyfriend, what has made you want to get back with him?

I haven't read any of the answers yet so I don't know if they've already said what I'm going to say, but oh well : ) I broke up with my boyfriend a few months back because he wasn't being faithful enough. He kept flirting with other girls and going to a lot of parties without me. So I ended it because I didn't feel like I should put up with bullcrap like that. And he tried to get me back a couple of times and I said no because he was still flirting with other girls and now, he's become a total manwhore trying to make me jealous. So I'm glad you're not dating to make her jealous or doing any of that idiotic stuff. What I advise you to do is to not act interested in anyone else, because if she finds out she'll be hurt and she'll stop trying to get you back. She might even start hating you. You should also talk to her when the time is right. Maybe she feels the same. My guess is that she does. I hope this helped. Good luck : )

Lust and love are different things. You might still love her, but if she leaves and then wants back, in most cases, it's lust. Remember exceptions, though, and take each case one by one. Most of the time, move on, and find love.

I got back together with a guy several times because he'd cry and I couldn't do anything else to hurt him.

I can tell you, sobbing did prolong the relationship but it also brought about its ultimate demise.

she more than likely still wants you
and there has be something on her mind about you
so now she wants to be your baby again :)

For me, it would be if I felt that same old connection between us when we hang out together. The best advice I ever got in wanting an ex boyfriend back, which applies to you to, was to be the person I was when we were together, the person that they fell for at first.

Being mopey, sad, depressed, angry around an ex will make them sick of you. Go to this formal dance, be amazingly funny, and the person she liked at first, and you'll be good. There was a reason why she was with you - make that reason come to the surface to help her realize


Other then that, it seems as though she might be a little immature and keeping you as back up. If that's the case, then don't let her take advantage of your feelings like that. Girls do this all the time, and it sickens me, but they just like to be emotionally comforted and they'll keep guys like you around for their beckon and call.

Hope I helped!

I break up on things that just aren't fixable. For my case, one of them, he treated me very poorly and I didn't go back to him. The other one, I broke up with because I knew he was seeing his ex. I think I would only go back with a guy if he's going to put all his effort into this relationship and make it work.

well, when I broke up with my bf, I was upset. I didn't want to break up with him. but he cheated on me and my friends told me to break up with him. my chest hurts when I think of what was lost. but I still hang out with him, let him know I still will treat him with respect.

it sounds like your doing everything right- hanging out with friends, excelling at work, working out, and still being there for her but giving her space. That's exactly what you should do. If she sees that you are a whole person and don't NEED another person to make you happy, and you're confident and friendly to her but not in a way were you act like your desperate to get back together, you are right on track.

I'm kind of in a similar situation as you. I wanna remain friends, be his girlfriend more and definitely don't want to disappear from his life.

Here's the hard truth though, no matter how much you choose to love this person, nothing can come out of forcing someone to love you, or even waiting for someone who has already decided they're through with you. I'd say...keep taking the role of a friend, from the info you typed, it sounds like that's all she sees you as. You'll just have to go with the flow...pursue her if you want to, just don't push...and don't expect too much. You'll only end up hurting yourself.

And as for your question..the only thing that would want me to get back with an ex is if he makes me feel like myself around him, have fun and later on that old spark just comes back. It doesn't always happen though...so I guess..you can remind her why she fell for you in the first place...and then this time, stear clear of whatever broke you guys apart. :p Good luck! Sorry for the long read!

Dude, I'm going through the same thing so I know how you feel. Just be patient and wait. It's hard, I know. It's hurting me too. But each day I try to find something that could make me keep my mind off the pain and to pass the time. Like going out and hanging out with your buddies, working extra hours, discover a new hobby. Do whatever it takes to keep yourself busy. Then before you know it she'll either call or you'll call to talk to her and she'll bring it up about getting back with you. You just gotta have faith. Never give up. And don't try..DO!

Hey, Don't lose sight of your value as a MAN.
Don't depreciate your value...
I know you love her, but that chick needs to grow up...
I'm still in a similar situation, and its very selfish of a person to behave the way she is...
Feeding you the bull...

If you really want this girl back, and your prepared to deal with her young mindedness, then what you must do is Rebuild yourself.
Be that guys she once loved.

I know you said your doing all these things...
Don't let this, get you though...
You know her better than we do, but from the outside looking in, she's confused in what she wants.
& there is nothing more unattractive than a female that doesn't know what she wants.

It seems she doesn't have a true understanding of life, and she's wanting to hold on to cheap thrills.

Just go back to you...
Be up beat and all that...
Other wise she'll be constantly reminded of what broke y'all up, rather than why y'all were together, and should still be.

What I did was go back to what made her love me in the beginning, and cut out all the immaturity.

But don't forget your value... No matter what...


Sincerely,
A Loving Black Man

I've been in this situation for about a year, and I know your qquestion was geared towards girls, but here's my opinion. There is a girl that I went out with a couple times this last year and she does the same thing. Sometimes she would talk to me and seek my attention a lot, and sometimes when I asked her out and was seeking her attention, she would push me away. But I've talked to her about this and she told me she thought I was always mad at her, that no matter what she did, it seemed like I was mad at her. I told her I wasn't and ever since, she has been keeping frequent contact with me, just being friendly, but a little more than friendly if you know what I mean. It seems like this girl, and the girl you are worried about likes you, but doesn't want a relationship right now, so don't take it as rejection. Have this conversation with her, and just give it a week or so for time, if this is your problem. For me, it was the next day after I talked to her and told her I wasn't mad at her that she started talking to me again. Now she has been calling me once a week and asking me to hang out and texting me almost every day (6 days this week and 5 days the week before).

I honestly think if you're in this kind of situation with a girl, she wants you really bad, but just doesn't want a relaitonship (I know I already said that), but when she does want one, she knows that she likes you, and hasn't gone out with anyone else, so you're pretty much on top of her list, not that she sounds like the kind of girl who has a list. If you want, I can send you a message of what someone told me about my similar situation a couple days ago.

because you still love them and you want to be with them still and I know because of my girlfriend broke up with me and asked me back out a week later saying she still wants me

You definitely do not want to be stuck in the "friend" position. This will make her heal, because she hasn't lost anything she wants (you, cause you are still there for her every need) and make you feel like sh*t, because you still want her back but she's not budging.

So in this case, there is only one option! Stop all contact bro, don't call, txt, IM, anything. Go out enjoy your life, be with friends, take up old and new hobbies that you stopped because of the relationship, become the confident self you were when she first met you. Now this will be SUPER hard at first, cause you feel the lowest of the low, but you must be a man and fight through it!

Now when she invites you to the dance/formal whatever it is, she's playing games with you. She wants to know if your still going to be there for her if she decides to come back after hanging out with some new dude. DON'T FALL UNDER THIS TRAP! Tell her you actually have some other plans that night, this will SHOCK HER! She expects you to come running to her and doing whatever she wants, but don't let her do that...When you act if you don't care if she hangs out with some other guy, that will scare her that you have actually moved on, and become the confident guy that can get any girl he wants, she will notice and want you back!

Now when you are moving on, going out, having fun, dating a little, you are slowly becoming the old confident self that she fell for in the first place! She will notice, and begin to miss you and want you back. This will take time, but everything does and you must be patient.

the only advice that I have for you is to move on in you'r life, whoever dump you don't deserve you in the first place, not going out on dates with other guys is bs, sorry but its the truth.
go out and have funn.

You said you didn't like this kind of advice but it's the only thing that I've noticed that works; Have a fulfilling life, a cool social life and hanging out with allot of people (and girls) and she will notice what she has been missing out on and wants to be part of your world.