When to start getting back out there

I have heard the it takes the average person half the time of the relationship to be able to start dating again with out the rebound thing happening. But I do agree with superstrength79 on this one

When you are no longer thinking about the ex with hope or desire, and you start to check out other men with interest and hoping they will ask you out... I think that's the time you're ready and won't be a rebound.

Take some time off from the dating scene and focus on hobbies or good close friends, be happy with yourself again. Leave yourself open to possibilities though... just make sure you take things slow.

I've seen bits and pieces of your explanation of what happened to you with your guy on this site, and I want to tell you, I'm with you on this one! I had my wife do the same thing to me 6 years ago, after a long marriage. My advice is to just force yourself back into the dating scene. I know the wounds are fresh, and it still hurts; especially after you treated him as well as you did, and he betrayed you by cheating on you! Even if you don't find a steady guy right away, just being back "out there" will help you get over the "jerk". (Did I get that right? ) It isn't healthy to just sit around keeping it all inside you, and worrying. You also don't want to get cynical and jaded about men. If you treated your guy that well, I know that someone out there will appreciate having a nice person like you for a girlfriend! Trust me; when you meet another nice guy, and build the trust up again, you will feel much better about yourself, and life!
Good luck. See you around the site! BTW, congrats!. #1 Xper!