Boyfriend won't reciprocate oral sex, what do I do?

A strong (maybe too strong) method to get him to try again would be to withhold sex until he goes down. This might not be the best approach.

Here's another approach. He might not want to give you oral sex because he is uncomfortable or not confident with it. So you have to get him comfortable with it again if he ever was. Get the both of yourselves in the shower and grab his hand and get him to touch you (if your shower is too small for the both of you, then do this after the both of you have had one). The shower is important, because he has no excuse at that instant about cleanliness or odor. If he likes touching you, which he should, then ask him to put his fingers inside you. The point is to get him to enjoy pleasuring you with his fingers and also to get him to enjoy solely pleasuring you.

You may not get him to go down the first time, but do try. At least while he is fingering you, you can tell him how to move his hands and what feels good and what doesn't. While he is fingering you, don't tell him to stop if he does it wrong; don't get frustrated; don't talk in a harsh voice; don't raise you voice. Keep him relaxed or else he will quit and the result will be like last time. Encourage him while he is using his fingers. If he does get it right and you really begin to enjoy it, he might get into it and voluntarily put his mouth down there. If not, then after a few minutes of getting him to finger you correctly, then ask him to use his tongue and mouth.

The point is he must gain confidence with his fingers before he will use his tongue, lips, and mouth. And of course reward him by returning the favor with oral on him.

Quoting That-Guy :

"Well.. stopping him mid oral sex is pretty demeaning and will affect his performance in the future. Do you tell him what he's doing right and what he's doing wrong?"

Well that is a huge part of it. First off, there is a first time for everything and he's gotta learn somewhere. This guy needs a chance, at least. Maybe since he isn't trying you should try. Everything is not the guys job. Women have to do things to.

To me eating is a huge turn on. If the guy doest want to do it are you sure your clean? Some guys don't like a strong womanly scent that you might have after going all day without a shower and as long as you are attractive to him and don't have any big moles in strange places that's mostly likely not the problem though or he would have told you that you smell.

Make sure he can be comfortable while he's down there I'm 6 foot+ and its a pain to stay on the bed while doing it. I end up with my knees on the floor hanging off the bed.

Like someone else said moan and get into it tell him how good that's feels and if he starts doing something you don't like don't stop him completely just beg him in a sexy voice to do that other thing he was doing a second ago.

Make sure he is not trying to work him self to death for no reason. If he starts and his tongue is moving 90 mph after 5 min or so he's going to be showing clear signs that he is ready for you to cum. You might have to find a nice way to tell him how to start off slow using his fingers and tongue.

Have him spend 5 min on your ears and neck, 5 min on each nipple, 5 min on your inner thighs, and 5 min teasing your lips before he starts eating you out. If you can get him to do that he will have no doubt that you are enjoying your self.

You may have to find a way to tease the head of his dick while he is licking you.

Don't let him cum before he eats you out. If you do he will not be very motivated to please you.

Play around as long as you are both willing to try new things.

Well.. stopping him mid oral sex is pretty demeaning and will affect his performance in the future. Do you tell him what he's doing right and what he's doing wrong?

It's all communication. I hated giving my girl oral but she made it enjoyable by moaning and letting me know what a good job I'm doing when I did it right (like you with a puppy when he first poops outside).

If it's important to him, let him know that it's what you want sexually. Keep trying to present a solution that isn't threating.

How? I don't know but don't hurt the ego.

PS: " you clean of course before right?" I'll tell my girl to hop in the shower if she smells.

Well of course he doesn't want to, you stopped him each time!

Imagine if every time you gave him oral he said "Oh god stop, you're rubbish! "

It would affect you and you wouldn't want to do it anymore.

I'm sorry, but what goes around comes around.

Maybe if you say that you want to help him get better or something. Or tell him that you love him no matter what.

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OH MY GOD - I have been searching the web all night to try to find this situation & your the first. I'm having the same problem, I'm almost 24, been with my guy since I was 19, He's now 30. He wants me to give him oral sex all the time but has probably only given it to me 3 or 4 times. He says he just doesn't like to do it, every once in awhile when he asks me to go down on him I'll bring up we should 69 & he will never do it! This is extremely upsetting to me, the times he did, he was horrible, I was self conscious & uncomfortable because I knew he didn't like it, he doesn't want to learn, doesn't seem to care, but wants me to go down on him all the time! I enjoy giving him oral sex - I like to watch his reactions to the things I do, I like making his toes curl, I like being in control of the pleasure he is feeling, It's a huge turn on for me, but it's terribly upsetting to me that he doesn't care to give me the same pleasure - I'm as lost as you - We need a guys advice here -

Because you stopped him each time. He is terrified to try it again and he might be embarrassed by it.