I have been dating this man for a little over a month now. He is so sweet and treats me better than anyone ever has. Last night he told me that he was IN LOVE with me! I didn't know what to say, so I just kept kissing him!
While we were making out he said that he thought I felt the same way and then asked me if he was wrong. I just kind of said no and kept kissing. But that isn't really true. I mean I care about him, a lot, but it has only been a month! I am not sure what I am feeling is love! How can he be so sure?!
I have only been in love once (last year) and the relationship ended badly! I never even told the guy that I loved him! I am so confused! I don't know if I am being hesitant because I don't want to get hurt again or if it is because I'm really not in love with him!
I never actually said "i love you" back, and I don't know if I can. I don't want to say until I am absolutely sure. But since he has already said it, and I kind of agreed, What am I supposed to do when he says it again?
I don't agree with the others who have told you to discuss your feelings with him. A month can be a long time or a short time - that's a perspective issue for each person.
I say let it be. He has expressed feelings for you and that's good. Maybe it takes you longer to develop deep feelings (or he is just excited). But if you sit down to tell him how you don't feel as strongly about him, that's not going to be a positive for anyone.
People aren't puppies - it takes a while to fall for them entirely. I would just keep on going with the relationship and see where you end up.
Just to add something girl, just wondering, how come you're going out with him if you don't have feelings for him?!! Is it because you're just feeling lonely? Or you just want to be in a relationship? I see you have only one relationship in your life?! I'm just being honest here, cause I'm 23 myself and truthfully I've never been in a relationship before. Cause if that's the case, you're making a big mistake and you're just gonna end up hurting the guy and maybe yourself later on. Were you guys friends before?! Or did you just meet him?!
I'm sorry, but when did I say that I don't have feelings for him? I said that I care about him a lot I am just not sure if what I am feeling is Love! If I didn't have feelings for him I wouldn't be with him! Not being in Love yet doesn't mean I don't care - 7 months ago
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And I have had more than one relationship. It's just that I have only been in love once! And because it ended badly I feel that I am a little guarded with my heart. - 7 months ago
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Well, even so, I believe that you should at least let him know how you're feeling towards him cause I've been in his shoes before and it's just frustrating, cause he's already told you his feelings for you and you're just leaving him hanging, and wondering - 7 months ago
I agree with the anonymous answer. I would ask him how he knew he was so sure and explain to him how you are feeling. He might be the kind of mate who starts to pour on his feeling quickly and he may be a great mate but if you don't talk about it then you may both be heading in different directions instead of working together on something real and positive.
I've been in this situation actually, but the other way around. I don't really get you girls to be honest. No offense. But I was going out with this one girl and I mean, if the two of you are going out, obviously you are interested in one another right?! Well, in my case, it's pretty much the same as yours, I told my girl "I loved her" which I did! A LOT! She didn't say anything but still wanted to go out with me after skating and stuff. After a week, I just wanted an answer, I was lost and confused and asked her if she loved me too and she just couldn't say anything. And that was also the end of it. So I don't really get you girls, why can't you guys be honest and just say things like "it's too early to know" or "I'm not sure yet" instead of leading the guy on.?
In your case, just be honest! You don't want to break the guy's heart, cause it really HURTS!
But how long were the 2 of you together before you said it? We have only been together a month. Than just seems like a very short period of time to me. - 7 months ago
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I've had feelings for her for half a year and I told her that the day I asked her out. We talked everyday for 2 months and that's about when I said it. It should be fair for the guy to know how you're feeling. Heartbreaks are really hard to get over. - 7 months ago
I agree with mugglesam. And I believe you are right to be confused and I see you as a smart girl when you take love seriously and think one month dating is too soon to express those feelings. People are different and usually those people who fell in love easily fall out of love as quickly. (there are exceptions of course)
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