I read a bunch of things recently where people have said that men tend to neglect women they are having sex with and just think about themselves. So rather than getting the girl excited and making her climax they just think of themselves and get themselves to climax.
Someone else said that if a man was dedicated to making a female have a good time and was able to get her to climax that she would always be looking to do it again.
Are these statements (any or all) of them correct? Is it really true that men tend to neglect the pleasure of a female during sex? And would it really make that big of a deal to a women/ would it really impress/excite her that much if a man got devoted to pleasuring them and trying to get them to have an orgasm rather than just thinking about having an orgasm himself?
Yes definitely. I love to please my man, but if I don't get pleased it gets frustrating and I am less likely to do special things for him. When he really wants to please me which doesn't seem like that often that he's not doing it for himself. It makes it easier for me to climax because I feel like he wants me and wants to see me experiencing pleasure. So I'd say yea what you are finding is true it's always nice to have my man put me first also that way he's not all burnt out after he cums
I can't belive you have to ask this but if you like sex and want to have it more than one time than do this(advice from someone who didn't really care for it at one time until now after I met a guy who puts my pleasure at the top of the list-he made me want him/it 24/7)if you can always keep in mind girls are not anything like boys we take longer to get in the mood-just looking at things won't work on us like guys we need kissed,touched (dont go straight to the hot spots. Tease her- never go there till you feel her hips moving back and forth that's when you know she wants it and we cool down slower too but if you make it all about her I promise you it will make her want to please you. if it helps to masterbate first (before she's there) then you won't be so anxious and can focus on her it will come back to you ten times over
Actually they are all correct - most guys only care about pleasuring themselves. Yes you came but what about her? You know at some point there are reasons why a girl becomes a lesbian and in my experience - this didn't happen to me but with a lot of girls that I go to school with and if I happen to come across a girl who's a lesbian - I ask them don't mind me asking but why are you a lesbian? Most of their number one response is: "because guys can't do their job - all they can do and all they know how to do is just pleasure themselves, I couldn't even reach my orgasm - it's like all I was doing is just lying there while he's pumping into me and all I found was total boredom and on top of that most of them are jerks who don't know how to treat a woman right! " Guys should really understand that a woman needs to feel affection - she needs intimacy - without that all it is, is just sex with nothing on a plate! And not even sex but boredom - I mean she can practically watch a movie while your reaching yours. So yes it is that big of a deal - what do you think she'll go for round two with no absolute arousal on the last one!
Lets just say, if you want your girl to keep having sex with you, you better give her some motivation. Sex is going to get old really fast if you just focus on yourself. This goes both ways, if you want to keep your partner happy, don't be selfish.
This is so true. Good lovers are selfless; they think about their lovers before themselves. When men only care about their pleasure, women pick up on that and it's such a big turn off. But when men pay special attention to their women, it's much more enjoyable for the both of them.
I don't know if most men only care about themselves, but I guess it depends on the man's experience with sex and women.
Both are correct in both a good and a bad way. The first is that men do generally think that if they are having pleasure, so is the woman. This comes from both selfishness and a lack of knowledge, both are bad. remember that having an orgasm doesn't mean it's over; keep going with both sex and the intimacy. As much at most men just hate the mushy stuff, hugs, kisses, body caressing and foreplay is equally important than the body smacking wild stuff.
A man must focus on making sure it's not a once-sided session otherwise it gets boring. In contrast, a woman shouldn't just lay there either. Solutions? plenty. Many others have posted most of the answers already. But the one thing I think everybody missed is communication. let the other person know what you want and how. It really works!
I think what really pleases a women is that she is given attention. This can come in the form of bringing her to orgasm, but really it shouldn't be a goal. Making is a goal is puts pressure on both partners and inhibits the orgasm anyway. Women like orgasms, but it is not the driving force it is for men.
I have often encountered men who say that women come first. The problem with this it again puts pressure on the women to put on a show, which is why many women fake orgasm. This is another problem in and of itself that fools men into thinking they are a better lover than they really are.
Again, it has been my experience that women really just want to be paid attention to, which to answer your question about men tending to neglect women is probably fairly accurate. Don't just go for the finish line goal; go for nurturing and loving. She will certainly come back for more if you can achieve that level of consciousness.
Both statements are true from my experience and knowledge. A lot of my guy friends only seem to talk about themselves and their pleasures. Mainly because they sleep around with many different women. I'm not sure about anyone else, but I -love- the feeling of pleasuring my girl. I love to see her writhing and moaning on my touch. I enjoy feeling her entire body shivering with pleasure. There's nothing better than that. And it's a give-take thing. Show her that you love everything and anything about her, go out of your way to make sure she feels good, respect her and her body, then you're on the right track. Women aren't pincushions, as much as some men treat them as so, they're not.
So I've never had an orgasm during sex and although I know I'm missing out it doesn't really bother me because it is still always a good time. But...
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Describe your ideal first date; Where do you go? What do you wear? How does the date end?
I don't really know I usually don't plan dates very much because I always ask her where she wants to go. But I guess we would go to dinner then to a movie. I wouldn't dress upcause I don't think any date should be coat and tie. Usually I think a date should end with both people pleased and happy and with soft kiss.
Afterwards..what will your date know about you?
On the first date probably not that much because I'm a shy guy I really would have to get to know her before I would show my inner self. But mostly I would probably tell her about some of the things that has happened in my past and how my relationships ended. And maybe ask her what she looks for in a guy.
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