Why do guys love to spank? I have a friend (he used to be a little more than a friend) that loved to spank me when he saw me. He used to do it a lot, then he stopped.
Found out he has a girlfriend, but since he knows I know he spanked me the last time I saw him. Hasn't done that since he started pulling away from me last year. He won't hug me, but he spanks me when he walks by. He got upset when I told him to stop. What is up with that?
Hmm, he likes to touch your ass. And, if he knows you get upset when he does that, he seems to be the type that will do it on purpose, just because it upsets you.
I agree. He is just the ass (pardon the pun) 2 do that. If I tell him that I don't like that, then I'm the one w/ the problem. He shouldn't smack the butt of someone other than your girlfriend, esp if he has no feelings 4 me and then pretend to get upset. - 5 months ago
I had a boyfriend who was into spanking. I think it is like "S&M light", or an "S&M test drive", at least for some guys. And of course it's about control, too. The spanker is dominant, the spankee is submissive, etc. In other words, there may be more to that playful little spank than you imagine....
So he is a freak, huh??? He wants to dominate. - 6 months ago
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If he's like my ex-boyfriend, then yeah. Maybe your friend is different -- or not. But I'm guessing that your friend, when he spanks you, is telling you something more than "hi". - 6 months ago
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He can tell it 2 his girlfriend not me :) acts like he doesn't want me around, gets nervous. "problem" is I want marriage, says he's not ready, then gets a girlfriend. Told me he doesn't love me, but spanks me when he see me? Just wants sex? I don't know he won't talk 2 me. - 6 months ago
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He is very sexual. VERY sexual, manly and confident, but he confuses me. He acts like he is confused, but I know that if he wanted me he would be with me. Maybe it is the marriage thing that scares him or maybe it is me that he does not want to marry. I don't know. - 6 months ago
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Hmmm. When he spanks you in public, he's kinda showing that you are still "his" in some sense. I mean, only in Italy can men spank random girls on the street. Here, a spank is a pretty intimate gesture. You sure you want to let him do that to you right now? - 6 months ago
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Said don't speak in a sexual way or make ANY type of sexual gestures. He got upset, said he is talking the same way he has always has. Told him things were different now. I think he wants 2 control me on his terms. He's friendly one minute then distant the next. - 6 months ago
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Yes, he seems to want 2 control you. And by stopping his sexual gestures (spanking etc), YOU are now the one taking control. But be aware --if he is like a lot of guys I know, your assertion of control might actually be a turn-on for him. - 6 months ago
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I agree. I have something that he wants...and he will do whatever 2 get it while trying to act like he doesn't want it at the same time. I think he wants 2 use me and keep her 2. Maybe he is changing his mind about her, but he can't have us both. - 6 months ago
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Hmmm. I think there is something you should read. The techniques may not apply to your situation, but then again some of them might. - 6 months ago
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What is it? I am open to suggestions because he has me confused. I wonder sometimes if he wants to keep me that way. Ya know? I have put some distance between us for now. It has been a couple of months since I have seen him. Thanks for your advice. - 5 months ago
Guys who like to spank usually like butts. And spanking is just a short not as obvious way of grabbing your ass. Especially if it's in public, but in the bedroom when guys spank it's a way to kind of get in the mood, almost animalistic.
He probably got upset cause he liked to be able to still have that sexual connection to you and now you've cut him off
Do you and if so is a lot, or just a tap here and there along with the grab-age of the bum? All but one of the guys I have been with liked to tap, but...
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What pickup lines do you use to start a conversation with someone you are attracted to?
In order to get to know someone I would wait until there is something I could laugh about with that other person. Such as someone dancing in the hallway...i would turn to the person I like and say "ha wow, some people are pro's" then id say something like "your friends with so and so" or "do you live in my neighborhood?" ((I know this works sometimes, but I don't know how else to do it))
How do they typically respond?
They usually smile or just respond to a yes and then I feel a lot better about my self and continue on the conversation until I got there number.
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