How to deal with?

I think it's really cool that you're waiting and, once you find the right girl it will be worth the wait. Plus it'll be even better if the sex means something to you versus if you just decided to do it with a girl you thought was attractive.

I've had the opportunities to have sex and I've turned it down. Sex is not just a physical expression but an emotional one too. If you feel like your missing out go for it but make sure your experience isn't one you want to forget.

I'm 21 and still a virgin. I don't mind necessarily being one. I do know what you mean though when you say that you feel like you're missing out. When my friends talk about sex, sometimes I feel like they don't ask me or tell me about things just because I've never done it, even though I'm not the most sheltered person in the universe. As for "the special moment" crap, I don't put much value in that either, mainly because that "moment" is what you make of it. You seem to have strong opinions and values about this, so just trust your own judgment when it comes to actually doing it or not doing it, and you'll make it through.

I'm not a virgin, so I can't help with how you are feeling. But I can say that you seem to have made a choice here, which will fit what you want in your life. Don't apologize for it, and don't think of it as missing out. You aren't. You've chosen how you want to live your life, and there isn't anything wrong with that. Be proud and hold out for what you really want instead of spoiling your hard-thought choice because every one else seems to be doing it.

You need to learn to be more comfortable with your life choices and not feel like you have to apologize for them or feel like you don't "measure up" because you haven't done certain things by a certain age. Once you stop caring what other people think, you'll be more confident in who you are. It's your life, you live it however way you see fit. And anyone who calls you out for being a virgin is probably insecure himself/herself anyway.

yes I am even thought I'm a girl I still have to take crap from people around me who are not virgins. But when it comes down to it it really should not matter because someday a persons going to like you if you are a virgin or not and I know its not easy so just keep that in mind. Plus many girls like to know that a guy has not had sex with a ton of other girls!

Just remember it's your choice and no one else's and if they can't respect you because of that to bad for them. I look at like this I know many of guys who thought no biggie and a visit to the clinic later they now have 2nd thoughts. Then the lucky/unlucky few who now pay child support even though the have nothing to the girl anymore. That right there is enough for this old fashioned prude.

It seems normal to me, and I think its good that you don't want to lose it on a one-night-stand.

My brother is currently 18 and is still a virgin, he thinks its a problem, but he doesn't see that its not a bad thing. Being worried about the subject should be way on the bottom of your list.

I think you should make sure you lose it to someone you love and who is also a virgin. That may be a little hard though... At least in a city.

I'm a 21 year old guy, I had one chance to lose it, but I wasn't completely turned on at the moment, so yeah I'm still a virgin, I know how you feel.

if you wanna lose it so bad get some
money, some good clothes, go to a
club, find a girl, get a couple drinks,
and that's it.

hello, I'm 21 and I'm a virgin, and all my friends know it. sometimes it bothers me, but I want to wait until I find the right girl. I've had plenty of chances to have sex, but I don't want my first time to be with some slut I hardly know.

Judging purely from the frequency at which this question pops up on the site: it's somewhat common with guys.