I had been dating a girl for 5 months. Early on in the relationship she asked me if I ever had a 3 some. I said no. She said she had not had one either. We talked and joked about it for awhile and that was it. Then one day a few months later her and her best friend were at her house drunk. Her best friend's boyfriend lives in Italy and apparently he cheats on her. This pisses off the girl that I'm with because it is her best friend that is being cheated on. Anyway, her friend got to talking about how horny she gets and my girl quickly says something along the lines of "well maybe (my name) will. " I quickly turned around and said "what did you just say? " and she said "nothing" with a smile on her face. I asked her the next day and she said that she didn't remember saying that and was probably joking.
I'm am confused would a girl really joke about that? Or was she testing me?
Update: Well here is the other thing. When she said it she was drinking. There were times when she was sober that she had told me this girl had a not so serious STD. So even though she said it when she was drinking she probably didn't truly want it.
7 months ago
Me and my best friend joke about having threesomes together with a guy ALL THE TIME. ESPECIALLY when we're drunk. Because basically, we know that if there's any girl on earth we'd be comfortable sharing a guy with, it's each other. But that doesn't mean either of us would actually do it if it came down to a real-life situation. Now, your girl might be curious, but she was probably just joking.
If talking about threesomes becomes a regular habit, though, I'd bring it up with her. Something along the lines of, "I don't know if I'm reading your signals correctly, but are you interested in this? " If she is. Well, do with that as you will. If she isn't, just reply something like, "Okay, I thought not, but I just wanted to be sure. " That way you cover your bases no matter what she says.
Maybe she really wanted a threesome, then though about it and got shy. You should really ask her if she meant it. If she insists that she was joking, then just drop the subject. Sucks, yeah, but we women, are crazy creatures. :)
I guarantee you she remembered saying it. But, I think, if she had really meant it when she was talking to her friend, she wouldn't have said it for you to hear it.
She might still want to do it, though. Maybe she was half-joking, and possibly she wants to give it a shot, but she knows you probably don't want to.
A girl would totally joke about it but if she did feel the need to 'test' you she would probably approach it in the same way. It sounds as if you handled it well. If it is something you are interested in, you should try the direct approach and throw it out there.
i think if she keeps bringing it up you may need to ask her about it. let her know how you feel but at the same time consider her feelings. like you said, it could be a test. you might be ok with a girl joining in but one day she might want a guy. think about it.
Bud, hate to be the one to tell you but you may have missed your first chance of a threesome. You had the perfect recipe for a threesome - 1x Girlfriend, 1x Horny Friend, 3x Booze, 1x You = Threesome.
Only way to find out whether she was joking or testing you would have been to follow through on it and see how far life would have taken you. No point in playing coy and shy as I don't think you have any hearing deficiencies at your age. :)
Coercing his drunken girlfriend and her friend into a threesome is probably not a good idea if he wants to keep his relationship, whether she'd want one while sober or not. Or if he ever wants either of them to say anything good about him again. Just sayin'. :P - 8 months ago
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Annwyl, I'd agree but coercing would have implied that he masterminded the situation which he did not. And following through does not equal coercion. He could have played along and seen where it would have ended. - 8 months ago
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