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Would you tell your partner if you had AIDs?

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slovenianseen (Age:18 to 24)     When: 8 months ago
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Even if you were using protection she would probably want to know if you're positive IMO.

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archer86 (Age:36 to 45)      When: 8 months ago
If one has ANY STD's, better tell your partner first and cure it if possible. Nobody should even have any sex with other people at all if they have AIDS. If I had AIDS, I would buy one of those REAL DOLLS and wait out my death. That's if I don't kill myself first.
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Quackpotty
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Quackpotty (Age:25 to 29)      When: 8 months ago
Hell yeah. It's not exactly my decision whether or not to tell if I get into a sexual relationship. I think that it's her decision, as it's her life I'm playing with.

Okay, that said, here's a little HIV/AIDS education for you: Condoms and other forms of contraception ARE NOT COMPLETELY 100 PERCENT EFFECTIVE! I don't know who the moron who decided to tell people that they were is, but that myth needs to be eradicated. Even against pregnancy and other STI's they aren't. Condoms can slip or tear. They don't exactly cover all the skin on the human body, so they can't protect against some diseases.
There is only one way to completely ensure safety - abstinence. There's no such thing as total 'protection' outside of that. Don't tell me that it's not possible in this day and age, because it is. Uganda became the first country in the world to reverse their HIV/AIDS infection rate - and it was done entirely through an abstinence campaign. They taught the 'ABC's' (Abstain, Be faithful, Condomise), but they taught it to say that you should abstain before marriage, be faithful WITHIN marriage, and then condomise until you decide to start a family WITHIN marriage. They went from the highest infection rate in the world alongside South Africa (I'm South African) and Zimbabwe, to amongst the lowest.

Okay, sorry about the rant, but that had to be said. It's time that the 'protection' myth is seen for what it is: rubbish.
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tammymac Good info on the stats about Uganda. I was thinking that people knew condoms were not fool proof. After all they only have about a 70% chance to protect you against pregnancy, why would anyone think they were 100% effective against anything else? - 8 months ago
Answerer Unfortunately in this country we've had a vice president as well as a health minister that have embarrassed us with their ignorance (eg showering after sex prevents HIV). They also have encouraged a 'free' moral code with condoms, and HIV is now thriving. - 8 months ago

ionlife
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ionlife (Age:36 to 45)      When: 8 months ago
As tammymac said, some states/countries will even prosecute you if you withheld that information.

I think people have a right to know before someone else decided to play Russian Roulette with their life.
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kenzo
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kenzo (Age:25 to 29)      When: 8 months ago
Absolutely yes, there are things that you can't hide it, also if you love your partner you will probably tell him that, you don't want to cause any harm for him so he should be aware of that for sure!
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Sugarcoat
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Sugarcoat (Age:18 to 24)      When: 8 months ago
If I had AIDs, I'd probably only date other people who had aids, just to be sure I don't infect others. I'd probably have my tubes tied too.
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Quackpotty Having sex without a condom when you both have AIDS actually makes the virus worse. That's beside the point though as condoms aren't totally safe anyway (see my rant above). - 8 months ago
Answerer I didn't know that, how does that work? I read your comment above already and found it very informative. Thanks! =]
If you could link me to a website that would explain it I'd very much appreciate it, I'm addicted to learning new things. XD - 8 months ago
Quackpotty I only know some South African websites at the moment, but that's for the HIV stats. The comment here is because you basically reinfect each other. The virus augments continually (only slightly) which is why there's never been a cure - it adapts to drugs. - 8 months ago
Answerer Oh, I see. =[ - 8 months ago

Marie099
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Marie099 (Age:18 to 24)      When: 8 months ago
If you have AIDS, and you know about it. Have sex with your partner and never told them is illegal. You can get in big trouble for doing that. So yes, if I had AIDS. I would tell my partner. I mean. You must have some kind of respect for this person you're about to have sex with. Therefore you should protect them. Sometimes a condom just doesn't do it. By not telling them and just having sex is wrong in so many ways. They could be thinking you're clean and safe when you know that you aren't. Put yourself in their shoes. If they had AIDS wouldn't you want to know?
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PrettyMochina
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PrettyMochina (Age:25 to 29)      When: 8 months ago
Yes. You are putting someone's life in jeopardy that may not willing do so. Especially if they are not using protection, that is a sign of trust. Taking advantage of that would be very deceitful and a death sentence.
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Sweetiesweet
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Sweetiesweet (Age:18 to 24)      When: 8 months ago
Yes.. I would... that is a hard issue to bring up but...... that is a MUST...
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tammymac
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tammymac (Age:36 to 45)      When: 8 months ago
Oh hell yeah! It would be a must. I think if I found out that I had an infectious disease that could not be cured, I would never have sex again, with anyone else especially someone I cared about. But I guess everyone is different, but if you are sleeping with someone and know you are positive, you are criminally negligent for them if they get sick or die from your disease.
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kimberlyinspired
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kimberlyinspired (Age:18 to 24)      When: 8 months ago
Absolutely! This is very important, and you don't want your partner to get it. Unless you do want them to, and that would be just so mean.
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