Why does my boyfriend take so long to cum?

I'm more or less in the same boat as I can usually go for hours. The women I've been with are usually happy with that until I go past what's fun for them and then they start getting sore and tired. Only a handful of woman have actually been able to get me to finish and my current can only do it about 3/4 of the time. I would think she knows it's not her fault, but she still gets frustrated the times I don't.

. I can control myself, I thought girls always hate it when guys ejaculate too soon. Wtf.

I have the same deal as your boyfriend, and speaking only for myself all I can say is that it's NOT the girl's fault. My girl sometimes indicates she thinks it is but I reassure her it's not.

I'm really not sure why it is. Sex feels amazing the entire time, there's no problems getting it up or anything.

I can tell you a few factors that affect it though.

Condoms. They're a great idea, but my dick feels numb using them. I like them because they let me f*** "like a jackhammer" for a long time without being overwhelmed by sensation, which I know she enjoys, but at the expense of me only being stimulated just enough to stay hard but not enough to want to cum or even feel really great. If you're using condoms now (and if you are, good for you), and you know your guy is clean, perhaps alternative birth control methods could be used. Failing that, they do make thinner condoms.

Second is masturbating. When I know I'm going to be with my girl I have to stop myself from jacking off for at least 24 hours beforehand, or longer. It's not because I don't want to but not allowing him to release himself will help build up the pressure to ejaculate. I don't think it's a case of becoming desensitized at all, more likely just the body not responding as strongly sexually at the idea of having sex because he's already ejaculated that day.

Third, foreplay. Make him do it if he's not. If I go straight into having sex, well I guess I never do, because without sufficient foreplay I won't even get hard enough to have sex. Anyway, lots of touching and teasing really gets me going, so maybe it'll help your boyfriend too.

Something else that hurts my chances of getting off is feeling pressure to cum. I find it hardest to release myself when I can tell my girl is ready to be done but I'm not. So even though you might just be saying "cum for me" or whatever to try to turn him on, there's a chance it's stressing him out because he's already aware of his ejaculation issues.

Long story short, some guys just have this "problem". I personally use this to my advantage because it allows me to have sex for hours and I usually give her multiple orgasms, but it has a downside in that I'm so exhausted that sometimes I just give up and don't cum. One time I even puked from exhaustion (not on her, of course). For me this issue is ultimately a good thing: I am king in bed because I can go at it for as long as she needs, even though sometimes it means I don't cum. I'm not personally bothered by not ejaculating, I know that it's a total reversal of typical sex when the girl squirts every time and I only cum sometimes, but at the end of the day I'd rather be this way than cum too soon or not please her. Having her cuddle afterward and tell me how awesome I was is better for me than just getting off. Talk to your guy about this, you might be surprised to learn he's ok with not getting off every time.

First comment is: what's the problem? :) Seems like it's usually a good thing. Sometimes I'm the same way, and I actually don't mind not coming, if the girl gets tired. As long as we've both had fun for a good long time, seems like a successful experience.

But yeah, coming is great too, and maybe satisfying for you as well when he comes. So. My idea is to find something that really turns him on mentally. A particlar position, exposing your ass, a particular act or technique you can do. Something that hits his particular fetish, or that feels really good to him -- along with the genital stimulation, of course. Orgasm is not usually just about genitalia, stimulation of other body parts, or mental imagery has a lot to do with it too.

And as for the blowjobs, yeah. I bet it feels good for him, but feel free to quit when you're exhausted and/or dry :) It feels great, but some guys will never come that way :)

I also suggest then in the sex, perhaps you could have him focus more on pleasuring you in the beginning. A good foreplay, intercourse involving many good positions, and then after a time longer than you usually have sex, give him the blowjob. Women have the benefit of being able to receive multiple orgasm, so it's a great benefit to the both of you.

Studies have shown that people who have "meaningless" or casual sex, report less intense orgasms and/or more problems achieving them. So you may want to try and get him to NOT focus on just having an orgasm, but rather on the intimacy and closeness of the act, not the end result. He sounds like the type that needs more mental stimulation prior to physical stimulation, in order to get him off. Or you could just take advantage of the situation for yourself and just ride him till the cows come home.

Wow lol, there are a variety of factors that could contribute to that. Genetics, frequent masturbation, the food he eats, etc etc.

I certainly don't think this has anything to do with you or how turned on he is. That's probably just how he is. But I do think guys that masturbate too much can some times have a difficult time cumming from having sex. Having sex with a woman is obviously different than a guy using his hand. If he gets used to his hand then it might be harder to reach orgasm from sex.
He probably just needs a lot of friction to cum. I would just do what you are doing and then let him help you when it comes time for him to cum. Also, if it doesn't bother him not to orgasm every time you have sex, then just enjoy it. As far as techniques, maybe watching porn while you guys make out. Try to find out the things that turn him on. And make sure he is not masturbating on his own cause that will probably make it take longer.