Is it wrong to not want sex?

If you meet someone you really like the sexual chemistry is so strong that some people can't wait to have sex with that person. If you are dating and your chemistry is not so hot, then girls pick up on that. I know personally that if I really wanted to have sex with someone and they didn't then I would think they don't like me or find me sexually attractive. As long as you make yourself clear and give your reasons why you do not want sex (and you really like the girl) then anyone who understands that is the one worth pursuing.

It's not wrong not to want sex. But most women who get involved with a man will probably want sex at some point. So, you might have a hard time keeping her if you don't give it to her.

In "this day and age", girls are allowed to show their sexual side. They want it as much as we do.

There are a lot of factors, but I'm neither an expert nor a lady so I won't go too deep.

One is that she's used to having sex almost immediately, it's something she expect to happen and it's a bit weird for her not to. Even though it's the farthest thing from the truth, she may feel unattractive because of it.

She might also think you're hiding something, that maybe you're a premature ejaculator or something.

Sexual prowess is also related to how manly she sees you. If all she's exposed to is your nice boyfriend side, she might (involuntarily) lose interest in you because she needs a "real" man, which to her might mean someone who's dominant and takes charge with what he wants. If you're not having sex, she might think you want to but are too much of a wuss to go forward with it. I personally show this side during sex, in which my Mr Nice Guy / nerd persona takes a vacation and I go wild. While I can't say for sure, I'm pretty sure that if I didn't do this I would come across as far too weak of a male to be a potential mate. I'm also not particularly manly in my behavior or appearance, so if you feel you are, then the above probably doesn't apply.

Enough with the bad, now some good. I think you're not alone in thinking that way, not at all. In fact I think there are plenty of women who prefer to wait, some of which do wait and some of which don't because they feel pressured not to, but at any rate would like a man who wants to build an emotional bond first. Maybe you could examine the kind of women you're going for and where you're meeting them and adjust yourself so that you don't put yourself in a situation that has a lot of women who want to get laid right away. I mean obviously if you're meeting women at the bar or club, you're meeting women who aren't looking for Mr. Right but looking for Mr Right Now.