I am very upset with his situation! I have asked my man before if he goes onto those porno websites (because I was getting pop-ups on my pc) and he told me NO, maybe it was because of a web page I clicked open or something. OK, so he reformatted my PC and put a virus blocker, pop-up blocker, which all seem normal. So recently he installed a new Windows program & upgraded my Laptop. When I clicked on the search history (because I was looking for a recipe website) I saw these porno websites in the search history, it has to be within the last week because that's when he used my laptop. In the morning he gets up early & takes my laptop into the bathroom with him, I thought he was checking the news, weather, etc. Now I think maybe he's on those porno sites. It makes me very upset because, we hardly ever have sex and the last time we had a conversation I told him it's not fair that he only thinks about his needs and not mine, I told him I have needs just as much as he does, and when he wants to be touched, that he should think I want the same thing. Well, things have gotten better as far as him caressing me, kissing me, but still we hardly have sex, when he's drunk, he wants me to go down on him, then he passes out! What the hell, now I'm assuming that he's getting off in the bathroom every morning before his shower to these porno/blowjob websites. I'm really upset I asked him again about it, I'm not one to brag, but I'm a pretty hot mom, everyday when I walk in or out the car, or anywhere, there are guys honking. Most of my ex's and I had a very sexually active relationship. I just don't get it. I feel like why is he looking at these skanks on these amateur blowjob websites and not getting it on with me? Even his friends hit on me, (guys & girls) he doesn't even notice it. Oh, I forgot to mention, I started to sell Adult toys & products (I thought he would think that's hot, but nothing) but I prefer the real thing. He barely pays me attention when liquor is involved. I am usually a very sexual person, everyone seem to get that off me, but him. I feel like he's a sicko, and we have a little girl, I'm also worried because of her, she's turning into a little woman now. Am I being insecure, or does he have issues?
A laptop in the bathroom would probably never be to check the news . Like many guys in his position, he has a porn addiction . And like most porn addicts, he surely thinks it isn't an addiction .
You're not being insecure . You might be well off to find a medical expert to contact by e-mail and ask their advice on how to deal with this situation . Good luck to you .
Give him his fantasy! You see the websites he goes to so you know what he's interested in. Honestly it isn't the girl on the site it's the fantasy of the situation. If he's looking at a student banging a teacher well then dress up as a teacher! If he's looking at a nurse banging a patient, get a nurses outfit! If he's looking at some girl who is giving a great blowjob and she has cum on her face, let him cum on your face! If he's looking at a girl using a sex toy Surprise HIM wrap it in a present and let him open it. Then tell him to sit down and watch! Tease the shit out of him! Don't let him come anywhere near you just tell him to watch! He'll go nuts!
Take the initiative! Make his dream come true! Trust me he really likes having sex with you but he is interested in trying something different (not someone)
Well sounds like the relationship is coming to a halt. The website might be what he is doing so not sure how your going to stop him. Try changing things up. Doll yourself up go out and have fun with him. Or try hiding your laptop then he can't use it over your place or leave it at a friends or parents house that's one way to change what happens in the morning.
The porno aside, you seem to have a loser relationship. Re-evaluate your life! Sounds like he's not your husband. Do you want to marry or stay with a drunk? Send him to AA and run.
Here's the deal. Porn is easy. Humans, especially men, are lazy creatures. Sex may be fun and highly rewarding, but it can also be a complex negotiation, potentially embarrassing, can lead to hurt feelings, and other problems. The fact that he is more willing after some liquor indicates to me that there are some inhibitions or concerns that the liquor is dealing with. A better way to deal with them would be to try and make sex as easy as possible. You might think you're already doing this, and you're frustrated, but step back for a minute and think about it. Is there anything you could do to make it seem easier for him, more fun, and perhaps most importantly, more secure that he can't do anything wrong or turn you off?
Now, on the issue of porn. Porn is a normal part of most guys lives, whether they admit it or not, some to a greater extent than others. The way to address this issue is to make him feel comfortable communicating about it. Rather than going crazy about porn popups, perhaps start by saying that you understand that normal guys look at porn, and it's OK if he wants to. Once he can admit that he looks at porn, and feel comfortable discussing it, you have more options. Maybe porn is something you can enjoy occasionally together. Porn should be a supplement... an easy release without a lot of entanglements. The fast food of orgasms... OK. But we can't eat fast food all the time, we need to have regular home-cooked meals.
So communicate, don't demonize the porn viewing (and consider sharing the experience if you are comfortable), make sex easy and fun (try not to let your frustration complicate things further), and finally, make it clear that you can't go on like this, if all else fails.
If none of that gets results, you may be dealing with addiction behavior, and at that point consider counseling. More likely it is just a hobby and can be addressed constructively.
Leave him honey! believe me I know I'm 16 but he's not worth it! I believe he does have a few issues he needs to work out! And honestly you never know if your daughter is 13 or over he may end up raping her I know it sounds oddly enough but trust me!
You never know how young the girls are on the porno websites I don't know but its possible there 13 which is illegal. My advice leave him for the safety of your little woman :] and also yourself its not worth it.
I don't have issues with porn as long as it is for something above and beyond how often you want sex. But in this case, he seems to be so focused on the porn that he can't do his duty by you. And that's what it is - a duty. In this case, it sounds like he has an addiction, because he is hiding what he is doing, denying how it is affecting others (you) and is oblivious to your requests for it to stop. You need to make it clear that he needs to give you what you need and be there for you or you will leave. Demand he sees a counselor with you.
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Describe your ideal first date; Where do you go? What do you wear? How does the date end?
Dinner and a movie... olive garden and a movie that she wanted to see. the the night would end by us talking about anything and everything until 3 am.
Afterwards..what will your date know about you?
That I go really slow in relationships with girls that I like a lot. I'm really busy which sucks but I love at the same time. I get stressed easily and cuddling makes it all better. I like sports and hanging with friends as apposed to getting wasted all the time, but I do like to drink. I don't smoke and hate kissing smokers. I am very laid back and just take things as they come.
(Age:30 to 35)
When: More than a year ago
