I was dating a guy and he would always tell me how hot and how much he loved me. He would so me off and kiss and hold me. Well when we had sex I always made him wear a condom because he has had unprotected sex with two other girls he was with. Well while having sex he said it felt like a hefty bag and he couldn't cum. We were working on 4 hours. So against my judgment I allowed him to pull of the condom. Within 30 mins he came. Well two months later I went to visit him we were long distance we had sex and it took him 3 hours to come with the condom even though we had foreplay. He always would go down on me and wouldn't allow me because he said he knew I didn't like it. He finally came. Well right before I had to catch my flight we moved love and he let me give him oral sex and he did the same to me. We did different positions after 3 hours he said he wasn't going to get off but maybe I could give him a hand job. I was crush but I did it and he came. After words he kissed me and held me and went to sleep. Few hours later on the way to the airport he knew it was bothering me and he said baby I swear it isn't you, I just have a hard time cumming with the condoms. What is wrong with me? He swears he is attracted to me and that he loves me
It is quite possible that the condoms give him a difficult time. Maybe the two of you can use a different form of birth control. There's nothing wrong with you.
If you are unsure about his 'cleanliness' then have him get tested. But to be fair about it, go get tested with him. If you are serious about this man, then mutual testing shows that you are willing to go the distance for him as he should for you.
Condoms suck - you can try using polyurethane condoms - like Trojen Supra's
You may also have to squeeze with your internal muscles to make it extra tighter for him because condoms dramatically reduce sensation - I've had to give up in th past on some occasions - traditional latex condoms are so thick and tight, they virtually cut off the blood flow and make it damn near impossible to cum.
There is nothing physically or emotionally wrong with you. It sounds like the guy has himself convinced that he can not enjoy himself with a condom on and part of having sex is being in the moment and letting your mind relax and take in all the sensations and pleasures.
Perhaps during sex he can conjure up some fantasies in his mind and just go with them as they may help him climax with a condom on. The mind is truly the biggest sex organ so he needs to let it loose and stop convincing himself that the condom is the stumbling block.
There's nothing wrong with you dear. He is apparently used to having unprotected sex which isn't always good. You should stick to your morals and don't let anyone push you around. He's not going to be the one carrying the baby if lets say you got pregnant. As long as he's attracted to you and you're attracted to him, everything will be fine.
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