Taking a girl's v card.

Question

Does a guy understand that its important to most girls who are giving it up to you?How do most guys (good guys, I'm not talking about asshole players) feel about taking it?

Anonymous · Accepted Answer

I'd like to think and hope I'm a good guy, though the majority of guys out there (even many that THINK they are nice) either see a woman's virginity as a trophy or achievement, which to me is actually sad, blind, and aggravating.

I think the good guys that see a woman's virginity as something special and sacred are the ones that, they themselves view their own virginity as special and meaningful whether they have shared it with someone or not. And to me, virginity isn't something to be "taken" or anything like that, it's a meaningful that shows a bound of trust, love and an absolute connection (unless it's thrown away on something meaningless and dirty or sadly to say, for those who have it stolen from them, but that last one is entirely different and doesn't mean that person has lost a special gift to share with someone they find important, it's just something different) on a deeper level. Everyone only gets one first time, and I'd like to think to people that seek love and a meaningful long lasting relationship if not everlasting, those people, myself included, hope that the first time will be with that person we want to be with the rest of our lives.

So to try to answer your question, not all guys, and not even all females view virginity as something important like I am guessing you do; however let me see if I truly understand how important it is to you and other modest/good females. It's something that you can only share/give to one person, it's something that may or not be painful and temporarily uncomfortable, it can cause a lot of anxiety, not just from not knowing exactly what it'll be like, but how the other person will react to it and you. Also, some females (maybe many, idk) see it as something that they can give someone special to them, that no one else can give them, because it's unique, it's special, it's from the heart, and it's something that means a lot to her, and SHOULD mean a lot to him if he has even the slightest understanding of it.

Anyways, I believe I answered this question as best I could, I hope this answers your question and I hope that you feel as though I've given the best possible answer =) Good luck with life and love, I hope you meet a guy that understands and makes you as happy as you possibly can be =)

setcheck67 · Accepted Answer

I've always found that a girl without her virginity really isn't the marriageable type(unless she's had A LOT of time to become more intelligent and stronger sense of self). Think about it if she lost her virginity before she found the "good guy" how easy is it for some hot guy to come up to her and say "hey wanna f***" whether or not she has a ring on her finger. Because losing virginity before getting in something serious shows 3 possible traits. 1. little or no self esteem which means in a marriage she wouldn't be able to resist some hot guy. 2. Really easy to manipulate, which unless your the control freak type will not make a good partner. 3. Takes nothing seriously, which is usually the type with STDS.

Men display pretty much the same traits when they lose it before something serious. 1. They only have a high self esteem when they used a woman as a sex toy. 2. They don't know how to control their animal urges, which essentially means they will cheat when the next sexy thing walks by. 3. They also don't take anything seriously which means they will be losers.

However none of these traits apply when they had a serious relationship that just didn't work. After all people change. (hence the needs a lot of time to become more intelligent and a stronger sense of self.)

I lose my virginity to a girl that wasn't a virgin, but she was the number 3 type trait... I sort of switched to the number 1 trait for a year and did the same to some other girl. However I felt guilty over it and now I can rightfully judge others that do it, because I'm not like that anymore.

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Darling · Accepted Answer

Nevermind LOL... I read some of the responses I figured it out haha. Um .. so how do I delete my comment? lol.

In response... hun, please don't be offended but if her virginity was so special, it wouldn't have been given away that easily. The fact that it was lowers your worth. Give it all in one night.. and what does he have to look forward too? I don't believe any guy that gets a girl that easy will ever see a future with her. It's just how it is.

Anonymous · Accepted Answer

Put it this way, a guy's desire to have sex can get the better of him in the moment.  I think a lot of guys respect that a girl's first time is not one you just hit and run.  But there is no guarantee that he will stay with you or develop a relationship with you.  You need to be with a guy for some time before you even consider having sex or you will be very disappointed when things don't go the way you think they should after.

jdcpa · Answer

from a guy's pov.. it doesn't matter.. really..

it's an artificial imaginary concept that's used to add value to something that otherwise doesn't exist..

i think most guys roll their eyes and shake their heads when they hear a girl going on and on about how big of a deal virginity is..

if you can't pay the bills.. if you're emotionally unstable.. if you're insecure and have low self-esteem.. if you're not sexy.. if you're practically asexual or sexually boring.. or if you're not hot.. putting artificial weight on the notion of virginity to make me feel somewhat flattered or as if you've given me something is definitely not going to compensate for the lack of everything else

how do most guys feel about taking it? TERRIFIED

if I'm the only guy you've been with sexually.. I'm terrified that you'll grow emotionally or sexually attached.. which is not a bad thing when you've had some experience under your belt.. but it's a bad thing when you THINK you know what you want, due to it being the only thing you've had..

if I'm a chef.. and I make steak.. and you come into my place and try out my steak.. and it's the first steak you've ever had.. you were saving this moment for a very special chef.. and you love it.. I don't feel the least bit flattered.. I'm scarred.. that when you try someone else's steak.. you might like it more..

but if you work for zagatt's and rate steaks for a living.. and you tell me you love my steak.. then I'm flattered.. then it means something.. and then I'm not afraid of you coming back to my place to have my steak over and over again.. because I know YOU KNOW that's what you want.. and I can emotionally and sexually invest in that relationship with fear of me getting hurt one day when you find something better passing along

ohioguy · Answer

It's not a big deal. The virginity that is.

I don't want to have sex with a virgin unless we're in some type of relationship. Girls who haven't had sex with anyone and then suddenly want to have sex with me tend to give me the first red flag. As far as 'good guy' is concerned, I think you're trying to set up a dichotomy that involves any guy disagreeing with your current perspective, as bad.

Am I, at 24 in the business of taking virginity(s)? I certainly hope I'm not. I'd prefer a girl that I don't have to baby-step through the process. I want someone who knows what she likes and is adventurous.

InquisitiveMale · Answer

It can be a big thing at times and other times its nothing to dread. However I'm very careful about dating a virgin. After having slept with them they easily grow very strong emotional ties and become somewhat clingy (obviously it depends on the girl) and that’s something that I don’t take lightly.

It also depends very much on the girl. I've been with a virgin who had done everything but penetration, she was very comfortable in her own skin, and she wanted to loose her virginity. She didn't think of it as a big deal and she wasn’t expecting the world. We were together for maybe 3months after the deed and things ended fine. She wasn’t emotionally distraught and it was really not a big deal.

So long as the brain in your head is agreeable with the one in your d*** all is well.

Subotai · Answer

It feels like an honor in a way.  It feels like you should make it feel like a really special experience like a bit of a fantasy.  I went out with a girl and we have been back in forth love since 8th grade.  She was always playing hot and cold and manipulating me and hiding me from her friends and cheating on me, so it ended.  I wanted to be her first time so bad.  It wasn't just lust if that's all I cared about I wouldn't have wasted my time on her.  Now her first time is gonna be someone else someone who probably won't even care about her just himself.  I know I would have made it amazing for her, and it would have been so romantic and intense after all the years of our love hate relationship.  Will p*ss me off till the day I die, that she would share that with someone else.  She even told me she would only let her parents and her ex boyfriend see her naked.  Sure as a guy we always wanna see naked babes but its not the same if your in love if your in love sharing that is really special.  Guess nice guys finish last.  Guess that's why its hard to find guys that are sweet or romantic anymore, they learned their lesson in high school.  Doesn't exactly pay off.

Jd_Ecid · Answer

I understand fully and it makes since. To me my girl's virginity(she's a virgin) is a big thing. Because like I've told her, her virginity isn't mine, It belongs to her and it's a very big decision to most girls on who they're going to lose their virginity to. Because you only get one v card therefore only one guy to give it to and you don;t want to give it to some random guy. Virginity to me is important because to me, when I take her virginity, she's chosen me out of all the other guys in the world and it's my job to let her know that she made the right choice and she won't ever regret it. And its just a really great feeling lol, it makes me really happy and like the only guy in the world. It also gives me the job of protecting her and being with her until my last breath. Plus most girls bond with the guy they lose their virginity to and that's big as well. Hope this helps:_.

dave216 · Answer

Yes, we understand you think it is important. We don't agree with you, but we understand your view. How do we feel? Well in a way it is a minor trophy. Being first at almost anything is always nice. The first to climb a mountain, the first to fly across an ocean, the first to do the cute blond down the street. You see most males enjoy sex because it feels good and most males don't really understand why females can't just enjoy it for the same reason. To them it makes no sense that you need a relationship, some emotional bond before you can enjoy sex. Too most males sex is like masturbating, only better inside a girl.

Kid_Boogie · Answer

I didn't understand till I did it for my self now I regret not staying with her but then again I WAS too immature to have a serious relationship(still regretting). Now I won't do it unless I'm truly serious about her.

Smurfguy · Answer

i don't like to be with virgins just because losing your virginity is not something you forget and its a very passionate to me its very special but then again I'm a bitch haha

Dela1111 · Answer

I think its something extremely special and is a symbol of the girl choosing me and only me.  Unfortunately the fairytale doesn't always end there.

armyant · Answer

I'm an asshole player, but I steer clear of virgins because... I don't know, there are some things you just don't do.

Hughman · Answer

I get the impression you're not a fan of players then. Nevermind. (You're horny for us really.)

I don't think I've ever taken a girl's V card as far as I'm aware, though I'd actually make sure she got a good impression of sex from me. Teach her a few things, give her some womanly pleasure.

Thatguy16 · Answer

Being one of the good guys I think that if I were to take a girls virginity I would feel honored that she would choose me to be the one to be taking something so special away from her forever.

Jpalms56 · Answer

It is very important and I would never pressure a girl into giving it up. I don't believe in God and waiting in stuff, but it all depends on if you love the person enough..cause you only get one first time

FatGuy · Answer

few guys actually care, like it means nothing more than a point in a game...cuz that's what it is, a game. but there are a few of us good guys out there that stay out of the game and actually love. there are some of us that actually care, but they are usually the guys that you just wanna be friends with

Darling · Answer

Sorry.. but what the heck is a v card? LOL.

Anonymous · Answer

Well I wouldn't use a girl just to have sex. I would have to have a very strong emotional connection with her before I would reach that point. So I would feel very special after that and I would probably treat her even better cause having sex and just leaving a girl really hurts them and you're a f***ing d*** if you do that. Almost all girls are VERY emotional about that kind of stuff. Except for the ones who have a really loose attitude and bang many guys.

Anonymous · Answer

I'm a good guy and am waiting till marriage... I mean, in my case, I would feel really bad and regret losing my virginity to someone that I didn't end up marrying, so I'm gonna play if safe and just wait until I'm married.

To me, someones virginity is a gift.

Anonymous · Answer

Yea I understand that its important to a girl. I never have yet, (I'm not a virgin) but I would feel privileged taking a girls virginity because then I know that I was doing my job at being a great boyfriend.  I would never take a girls virginity just because.  I like to know that I made her feel comfortable and happy giving it to me.

Anonymous · Answer

Well, I am a good guy so I can tell you that we understand it's important. I would never take a girls virginity unless I knew that

a. she really wanted me to take it

b. this is not a fling, and actually has real emotional backing to the relationship

Taking a girl's v card.

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