Ok, I know this is going to sound weird coming from a guy, but I honestly refuse to just have a random hook up with girls. And I met this girl at my friends party (there was light drinking, card playing, corn hole, etc) And you know we kinda clicked because were in the same situation. We both have 1 1/2 year old daughters, were both in college, working full time, and just you know doing what needs to be done. And well This past Saturday We finally got a chance to hang out and go on a "date" if that's what I want to call it. And we went back to her house to watch a scary movie AGAIN. And you know things were going good. Then it came to the point of the night were she wanted to have sex. And me like I stated above just don't like doing that thing on first dates, and I told her I didn't want to because I mean this is the 2nd time I have seen this girl since my Jr Year of High School. I mean I have grew up a lot since High School, And I'm not into the short term thing, friends with benefits or any of that. And She got mad at me and hasn't returned any of my calls That I have made to her. She kicked me out of her house and got made because I told her I'd rather wait to do that, and get to know her better.
Ladies. Why is she mad at me? Or is she just in shock of being turned down? I'm told I'm that "catch" you know the nice guy with the bad boy attitude. But I respect woman, I grew up in a small town with morals and to treat woman with respect.
She probably doesn't feel like she can trust guys, that all that guys want is sex, and she probably felt insulted by you saying no, don't get me wrong I love that you told her no, but she probably has it set into her head that she's only good for sex and that she only resembles sex to guys-so if you want her, fight back, show her how you believe that she is worth more than sex, you can win her back if you want-once she realizes that you're right, it will all be good. Good luck
Shes upset and probably a little embarrassed that she was rejected. Honestly, I respect your decision and she should too. I am sure she does, she probably just doesn't know what to say and doesn't want to make a completely awkward situation. I don't get the impression that she is mad, there is no real reason for her to be , sex isn't worth ruining a potential friendship...but keep your morals. that's what makes you a good catch!
But the whole thing with the "rejection" I told her that first night.. That I'm not like that. I don't like to rush anything just because it brings so much unwanted and unneeded stress into a friendship and or relationship if you start it to early. But I mean she is a very pretty girl, and me on the other hand... well I don't think that "I'm all that".... And everybody knows my personality in my home town - 8 months ago
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Maybe she thought she could be the ONE to change your mind, bottom line is you rejected her. That's all she sees, she does not see that you were trying to be the nice guy (that you are). She sees that you were not attracted enough to her, to do anything with her. She thinks you don't think she was worth it, or sexy enough, or pretty enough. Find another girl, you don't really want one who is that insecure....do you? - 8 months ago
I'm not a girl, but, if she's the type I have known, she's probably the kind that is used to getting her way all the time, and when she doesn't get her way she gets upset, because she thinks it's unfair .
And she might be nice to you next time you see her . Don't fall for it, it''s an act . You don't need this kind, they are impossible to put up with .
The Law of Rejection as it pertains to women... when they want to have sex and you deny them, you aren't ever going to be received well. I haven't met a woman yet who thinks men have anything but sex on their mind at all times. Not wanting it is probably an alien concept to them. Which sucks because some times I just want to be friendly and talk to a woman.
Also, I am not sure how you classify this as a hookup. You already knew her, you spent time with her at a party and didn't mess around, then you went on a date and things were going well. Did you not have a condom or something? People who have children live with a different set of rules when dating, and I personally don't know all of them. One of them I am familiar with is that it's very hard to meet someone else who can be interested in you and your child at the same time. Maybe she was a little too excited to be with you and was rushing into things.
If you care about her, and possibly want to keep pursuing a relationship, you should talk to her about your standards of dating. She may be upset still, but hopefully she understands and is willing to give things another chance.
Some girls don't know how to handle rejection since most men would jump at any opportunity. I am sure she will come around once her pride recovers.
Only advise I have is not to discuss the night with any mutual friends as I am sure the last thing she requires now is for others to think that she is easy. That would be the death knell for your friendship with her and some girls are quite vindictive. :)
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