Am I Making A Mistake By Having Sex With A Guy Who Has A Girl?

Until he leaves her, I think you should avoid physical contact with him. To do it the way that you are suggesting could be a bad situation.

Do you really want to break something up, whether its because of you or not, but think at it this way right now your the other girl, he cheats now it will happen again and you might be the girlfriend and there will be another other girl. Plus in the end you will probably have to deal with the guilt knowing you possibly had some part in breaking two people up I mean if your ok with it and have no remorse then shouldn't be a problem but if that's not the case I would definitely think again,

Thats nice, use sex to control a guy, I sure would not want to meet you. Have sex, if you want to have sex. If you don't want to, then don't. But please don't play those silly games.

I think that you should leave this guy alone. I know that you probably enjoy the sex, but that shouldn't be the only reason for being with this guy. If you the girl he is cheating with what makes you think that he will not do the same thing to you if you guys are together. Plus it doesn't make it right if she cheated on him and now he is getting her back. What sort of positive thing with come with that kind of thought process. He is only hurting his situation with her even more. I would back off and tell him that unless he is single that you don't want to be the third wheel.

Well if you sleep with this guy just so he might break up with the girl he's with so he will go out with you, then I think you need to think about a few things first. Lets just say you did sleep with him while he had a girlfriend, what makes you think he wouldn't do it to you next? Plus I see your under 18. Now at that age a lot of people talk trash and spread all kinds of things no matter what haha. But your still young and I think if you do this it will come back to haunt you later. I Don't think its a good idea to do what your thinking about doing.

If you think that whoring yourself out to get guys is the way to do it, then you're wrong. First off, if you can only get a guy by having sex with them, then you're going after the wrong guy. And why would you want a guy that has a girlfriend anyway? It's a lose/lose situation for you. This guys is not a good guy. Do you really want a guy that flirts and comes on to other girls while he's in a relationship? Let me give you a hint. If he will leave his girlfriend for you, then he will leave you for another girl. If you were really smart, you'd get some self esteem, you'd go for a real guy, and not this loser.

Dont Do it no good unless you want to be known as the ho that stole someone's dude

He is not going to leave you for her. DONT SLEEP WITH HIM. And have enough respect for yourself not to sleep with someone who has a girl. yeah she might have cheated on him but its doesn't make it right for you to sleep with someone who has a girlfriend. I mean how would you feel if you were his current girlfriend?

Also, forgot to mention this, do you KNOW she's cheated on him? You aren't even sure for a fact. Not that her cheating makes any difference on the situation, I'm just saying. You don't want to cause that girl pain do you? If you sleep with him to try to be with him, he will go right behind your back like he did to this current girlfriend and cheat on you, too. Then, how would you feel if you found out he was messing around with a girl behind your back and planned to sleep with her?

I have been in your position before and guess what, he won't dump his girlfriend. You're "easy" for him. By letting him sleep with you now, you're just a side thing to him.

And really hun, do you want a guy who cheats on his girl? If he cheats on her, he'd cheat on you too.

I'm kind of in the same situation right now except I'm not gonna have sex with him while he has a girl and I made that clear to him. We just went out for the first time recently and had no sex but did make out, hold hands like as if we was a couple. We click really well and I like him a lot. He said he's gonna leave his girl and I told him till then we can go further but for now, I will not share him but I know that being involved with him period is wrong enough but I'm not having sex with him and I'm gonna see how long he'll last with me without getting it. Will he drop me? If so, then he was never gonna break up with his girl and was just deceiving me to get the sex. However, I'm going to see if he is real about everything he said.

He won't leave his girlfriend just if you have sex with him, I can pretty much promise that. He's coming on to you because he's a player -- once he sleeps with you he will have gotten what he wanted and he will STILL be with his girlfriend. plus like everyone else here said, he's not the type of guy you want if he has a girlfriend and is still trying to get with you. Plus, you should have enough respect for yourself AND the other girl to back away from the situation. Just because she's cheated on him doesn't make it ok for you to sleep with her boyfriend... two wrongs don't make a right.

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First off, you really like this guy. Sex should be shared with someone you love and care about. If he keeps coming on to you, that's his problem. He is the one coming on you, and if it is something you wanna do, by all mean. I think you shouldn't feel bad about it, because he is having sex back. If you still feel guilty, sit down with your partner, and talk about it with him. Tell him how you feel and maybe he can help.